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Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman's perspective on flirting.The Cheat Sheet:What is the definition of flirting -- and how does it differ between women and men?Learn the top five excuses why women don't flirt or use femininity in dating and in the work force.Discover three practical ways to flirt that will attract what you want.Use Kimberly's magic formula for attraction (The Three Fs: have Fun, pay attention to Fashion, and tap into your Flirty femininity).Tune in to Kimberly's Dating GPS.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kimberly-seltzer-flirting-for-women-episode-497/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the sh

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!AJ fills in for Jordan this time around, so let's cut to it!In this episode:No matter how confident you are, presentations take preparation. Don't let one bombed presentation knock you off a confident course. Have you checked out Toastmasters?Is it ever too soon to tell a romantic interest that you'll be moving to a new town (or a new country)?As a man, are you ever too old to rock the long hair?What do you do when your significant other seemingly stops caring about their appearance?Can a remorseful emotional cheater restore trust and mend the relationship they broke?Do you have to be hard wired to be an entrepreneur -- and if you're not, can you change your programming?Ever wondered how to anticipate someone's thought patterns?Have an

Scott Barry Kaufman (@sbkaufman) believes in the power of imagination and creativity to transform society for the better. He's the co-author of Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind, which details the 10 habits of highly creative people.The Cheat Sheet:What's the difference between imagination and creativity?Learn how creative people have "messy" minds (and why this doesn't mean what it sounds like it means).What is creative thinking?Openness to new experiences is the number one best predictor of creativity.Understand how adopting the Outsider's Mindset -- looking at your everyday experiences (such as work) as an outsider -- can give you new and creative insights.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/scott-barry-kaufman-wired-to-create-episode-496/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the

Philip McKernan (@PhilipMcKernan) is like a life flow chiropractor. He helps people find or reconnect to what it is they truly love by aligning with their own intuition instead of suppressing it for the expectations of others and appeasement of a misleading mindset."We will literally live entire existences, build entire empires, and build entire businesses because we are seeking the validation of people around us -- and most people would be in complete denial of that reality." -Philip McKernanThe Cheat Sheet:If you're not living a life you love, it's time to have a tough conversation with yourself.How will an intuitive "soulset" serve you beyond the limitations of an intellectually driven (and inauthentic) mindset?What is intuition, and does it have a place in business?Why do we build webs of ever-increasing complexity around ourselves?It takes courage to step away from something that's not working -- but it's almost always worth it.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/ph

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.We'll send all of this to your inbox if you text CHARMED to 33444.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!In this episode:What should you do when you start falling for your best friend's girlfriend?Can a college kid go through a midlife crisis?Do grandparents have any right to complain about the name that's been given to their grandkid?Approach anxiety happens to us all. How do we get over it?You're vanilla

Gary Vaynerchuk (@garyvee) revisits The Art of Charm to talk about his new book #AskGaryVee: One Entrepreneur's Take on Leadership, Social Media, and Self-Awareness and answer questions from listeners and AoC alumni."Everybody old cares way more about how they made their money vs. how much they made." -Gary VaynerchukThe Cheat Sheet:With so many platforms at his disposal, why does Gary continue to write books?Where does a workaholic like Gary stand on the concept of work/life balance?When do we quit if something isn't working?How do you know if you're hard-wired to be an entrepreneur?How do we balance the hunger required to achieve Plan A while not taking too much comfort in Plan B?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/gary-vaynerchuk-askgaryvee-episode-494/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes!

Teresa de Grosbois (@TeresaDee) is an influence expert sought by entrepreneurs and large corporations wanting to better understand how local word of mouth can suddenly turn epidemic, and she's the author of Mass Influence: The Habits of the Highly Influential.The Cheat Sheet:Why is developing a knack for mass influence more important than just offering improvement to your own life?Learn the simple habits you can build to become someone who can easily create meaningful change and support others in doing the same.Discover how influencers think and the habits they follow, including the unspoken rule book they play byWhat are the top mistakes to avoid when dealing with influential people?Discover what you need to know to get past the gatekeepers in meeting influencers.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/teresa-de-grosbois-mass-influence-episode-493/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out f

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.In this episode:Can your personal growth still thrive if you're in a relationship with an underachiever?A man in sweatpants every night is just as unsexy as a woman in sweatpants every night.Should an interviewer ever challenge a subject matter expert if their experience with the subject differs?An Art of Charm bootcamp veteran explains why he chose our residency program over some of the larger ones out there (and what he told his friends who asked what he was doing on his week away).How important is your grade point average in college compared to actually learning something useful?What do you do when you see someone clearly engaging in supplicative behavior?Check out Jordan's video this week about why you need to cultivate discipline to win.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com or even, tha

Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch), author of Love Factually, rejoins us to explain how men can enter, exit, and recover from relationships in a way that benefits them...all based on science.The Cheat Sheet:Is "love at first sight" a real thing? Science has the surprising answer.Women have shaped men psychologically over the course of evolutionary history.How do mating strategies differ between men and women?Learn the best predictors for whether your partner will cheat or be faithful.What (specifically) should you say to someone you need to break up with?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/duana-welch-love-logically-episode-492/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jay Baer (@JayBaer), author of Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers, shows us why we should strive to understand our haters and communicate with them instead of getting defensive or -- worse -- ignoring them altogether."When you answer your critics in public, they never see it coming. You can blow their minds and steal their hearts." -Jay BaerThe Cheat Sheet:Customer retention should take precedence over acquiring new customers in any business, yet marketing budgets overwhelmingly exceed customer service budgets across all industries. Why?Thanks to social media, customer complaints are more public than ever. A smart company will see this as an opportunity for customer engagement and satisfaction rather than a setback.80 percent of businesses say they deliver superior customer service. Eight percent of their customers agree.The Rule of Two: never interact with someone online more than twice. If they love you, there's no need to answer more than twice. If they hate you, there's no

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.All right, let's cut to it!In this episode:How do you make friends when you've moved to a new place and you've never been away from your hometown before?A listener shares a story relative to Fan Mail Friday #49, and helps prove our demographic is ever-changing.The book-learning is with you, young medical student. But you are not a Jedi doctor yet."Achievers always support doing things to better themselves and people around them instead of accepting where they currently are."How do you know who to i

Michael Roderick (@MichaelRoderick) went from being a high school teacher to a broadway producer in two years. Here, he shares what he's learned about the different ways we connect and how they tie into our own issues around giving and asking.The Cheat Sheet:You may understand the importance of creating a network, but do you understand the importance of curating that network?Are the people in your network as invested in your success as you are in theirs?Find out how to break your network down into four categories and discover who to focus your energy and time on.Understand the difference between framework and formula (and which is more effective).Learn the GATE strategy for creating a balance in your life around giving, asking, thanking, and experimenting.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/michael-roderick-small-pond-enterprises-episode-490/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from

Russ Roberts (@EconTalker) talks about how economics can help us understand the world around us and lead better lives. He's the author of How Adam Smith Can Change Your Life: An Unexpected Guide to Human Nature and Happiness and host of the EconTalk podcast.The Cheat Sheet:Adam Smith's deepest insight into human nature -- what really makes us tick -- is being loved and lovely.Learn about the impartial spectator -- Smith's basis for our conscienceWhat are the dangers of self-deception at work and at home?The father of capitalism thought that seeking wealth for its own sake is a fool's game and corrupts us.Even in 1759, Adam Smith understood the seductive power of gadgets, celebrities, and powerful politicians.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/russ-roberts-how-adam-smith-can-change-your-life-episode-489/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the cre

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #50, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right!In this episode:Remember this one important rule when someone keeps blowing you off: your time is your most valuable commodity.Sunblocking and risking vitamin D deficiency (as discussed with Dr. Rhonda Patrick in episode 485) vs. not sunblocking and risking skin cancer.Trying to be productive but you can't get past the nervous anxiety that makes it hard to get a good night's sleep, leaves you prone to distractions, makes you unable to express what's really on your mind, and keeps you habitually doing things you wish you wouldn't? As far as solutions go, Jordan is not mad about adderall.When is the right time to bring a possibly serious significant other to a family function?What cover story do you tell people when you're gone for the week of an AoC bootcamp program?Should you get into the habit of rejecting friendships or relationships that won't give you what

Dr. Ben Michaelis (@DrBenMichaelis) is a motivational psychologist and author of Your Next Big Thing: Ten Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy. Here, he shows us how to stop trying to avoid stress and, instead, utilize it in intelligent ways."The tighter we hold onto things and try to control them, oftentimes the more difficult it is to have influence over them." -Dr. Ben MichaelisThe Cheat Sheet:Stress is inevitable, so stop trying to avoid it and learn to leverage it for constructive purposes.Is anxiety the same thing as stress?Understand how cognitive biases get in your way.Learn the difference between eustress and distress -- and how to get the right amount of the right kind of stress when you need it.How do we overcome our evolutionary programming to focus on actual problems vs. imaginary problems?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/ben-michaelis-your-next-big-thing-episode-488/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a

Brian Koppelman (@BrianKoppelman) was a blocked writer until he was 30. Now, he's the showrunner, co-creator, and executive producer of Billions on Showtime and the host of Slate's The Moment podcast. How did he turn things around? He's here to discuss this and share his Hollywood stories with us on The Art of Charm. "The armchair quarterback is easy to filter out; just look and see what kind of work they're producing." -Brian Koppelman The Cheat Sheet: Law school is an expensive (but not completely useless) place to learn life lessons. How do you know when you've done work of "undeniable" quality -- in the absolute sense? The line between being an artist and being delusional is very thin. If you want to be a screenwriter, read a thousand screenplays. We focus so much on the hustle that sometimes we forget to focus on the work. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/brian-koppelman-making-billions-episode-487/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscri

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #49! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Be careful of giving too much significance to someone you think of as a "significant other" -- especially if years have passed and you've only interacted online or by phone.A college enrollment counselor responds to a question last week regarding deportation and passes along what may prove to be important information about Optional Practical Training.Is it "once a cheater, always a cheater," or "once a snooper, always a snooper?" Therapy may provide the answers you seek.A mom responds to the listener who was wondering how to justify to his wife the benefits of coming to an AoC bootcamp.Your good friend confides in you that she was having an affair with someone who's married and has kids, but it's ended and she's devastated. What do you do?When most components of a relationship are ideal but one person grew up working hard for every penny and t

Frances Cole Jones (@FCJones), author of How to Wow, wants you (yes, you!) to know that charisma is something you can learn and cultivate for better job interviews, sales pitches, presentations, and connecting with others.The Cheat Sheet:Understand the impact of body language on communication (by managing your own and reading that of others).Learn how to listen for intent as well as content.Use this proven language for increasing listener buy-in from 60 percent to 94 percent.How should you stand when you want to convey authority?How should you sit when you want to gain someone’s trust?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/frances-cole-jones-how-to-wow-episode-486/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your a

Dr. Rhonda Patrick (@foundmyfitness) of FoundMyFitness.com talks about micronutrient deficiencies on metabolism, inflammation, DNA damage, and aging as well as the role of vitamin D and omega-3 fatty acids in brain function.The Cheat Sheet:Just because you don’t have scurvy doesn’t mean you’re getting all the vitamins and minerals your body needs.Genetics get credited (or blamed) for cognitive function when what we eat and how we live have just as much (or more) impact.How does stress affect your capacity to learn?Learn what inflammation is and why reducing it is key to health and longevity.Why should you use a sauna two to three times per week?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dr-rhonda-patrick-found-my-fitness-episode-485/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.the

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #48! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Was Cal Newport's advice to entrepreneurs in episode 482 of The Art of Charm too practical? (We get some clarification from the source.)As the new guy on the job, you might expect some lighthearted newbie-ribbing from your boss and coworkers -- but what do you do when it seems to cross the line between having fun and making you appear incompetent?The Art of Charm's not for everybody.What's our advice to a teacher who is wondering how to give out advice to students (especially regarding the go to college/don't go to college conundrum)?How do you hug someone without being awkward or creepy?Is six months too soon to make a genuine proposal to your foreign-born sweetheart who may otherwise face deportation?We should revel in having awesome friends instead of comparing ourselves to them. Jordan tells us how to stop comparing ourselves to others in