Become More Compelling Radio

"Just fake it until you make it!" This is popular advice-especially if you're trying to improve your people skills. Should you fake it until you make it? The more we take action and do something, the more our identity moves to align with the version of us that does that new thing. Our thoughts FOLLOW our actions. In this episode, I'll walk you through a couple of tips that will help you make it, (and not fake it.) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Should you care what other people think? There’s a lot of advice floating around telling us to not care what other people think. (Sometimes in more...colorful language than that.) I’ve never liked the concept of NGAF. But the reality is, caring less about the outcome of any given social interaction can massively help your people skills. In this episode, I’ll walk you through a couple of exercises that will help you declare “outcome independence” with some help from Tim Ferriss and the ancient Stoics. --- TED talk mentioned: https://tim.blog/2017/05/15/fear-setting/  --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

If you've ever looked around the room and thought...   "I'm an imposter! What am I DOING here?!"   Then you've experienced imposter syndrome.   In this episode, we'll drop-kick imposter syndrome and also teach you how to use your ego as a tool.   ---   People mentioned:   Scott Adams   Platon    ---   Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Most people hesitate socially.   "Should I say this or that?"   "I don't want to rock the boat!"   It's time to get BOLD.   In this episode, we'll talk about how to be socially bold.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

The intent you carry into any social situation matters!   If you're not thinking about the right things, it can make having great social outcomes MUCH harder.   In this episode, we'll talk about social intent and what you can do before your next Zoom meeting, first date, or dinner party. (After COVID-19 quarantines clear)   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Look-real talk: Socially awkward moments happen. For most of us, an awkward moment can ruin a conversation, first date, or am important meeting. Not anymore. In this episode: How to bounce back from awkward moments. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Have you ever been talking to someone and it seems like they already know what they’re going to say, and they’re just waiting for you to stop talking so they can say what they want? I call this the “spring-loaded response trap” and it signals to the other person that you’ve checked out of the conversation. (Not a good look if you want to have better interactions with other people.) Often, this happens because people lock on to something they KNOW they can respond to in conversation. And then they stop listening. If you feel like you may be guilty of this…in this episode, we'll cover what you can do about it. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemore

No one likes to be interrupted.    But look, it's bound to happen from time to time.   Maybe your new friend brings up something that you know a lot about, and you interject.    In this episode, we'll cover what you can say to get back on track and show the other person that you were listening, not just waiting for your turn to speak. (We'll also cover what to do if you were interrupted.)   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

There's this jerk of a cognitive bias called the Spotlight Effect. We tend to place more importance on ourselves in any given social situation.  And we tend to overestimate the amount that other people notice us. When it comes to improving our people skills, this isn't helpful. Here's how to use it to your advantage! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

If you've ever caught yourself thinking "They think I'm awkward/quiet/shy" then you've fallen into the mind-reading trap. (It's okay, we all do at some point) Mind reading isn't doing you any favors in social situations. In this episode, we'll cover the mind-reading trap and how to avoid it! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Do you ever fall into the "Why Questions Trap?"   If so, that's totally normal.   Why questions tend to focus you on the problem, not a solution.   In this episode, we'll cover how to transform those why questions to help you take action!   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

There are different phases to learning any new skill or starting any new project.   1. "This is going to be easy!" 2. "Okay, there's more work here than I thought..." 3. "WHAT'S THE %#@K!^G POINT?!" 4. "Okay, I'm feeling good again..."   In this episode we'll cover the entrepreneurial roller coaster, and what it means for learning people skills.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

How you introduce others matters! In this episode, we'll talk about how you can take your introductions to the next level. (This is an easy way to stand out and be likable.) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

In this episode of the podcast, I talk about the difference between goals and systems. Goals are great, but they keep you in a constant state of failure. If you've always been a "goal person" then you need to check out this episode like yesterday. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

Does being really really ridiculously good looking = better people skills? The answer might surprise you. (Hint: Focus on what you can control, and you can control a lot) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

"Be yourself!" "Be confident!" These are things that you'll hear a lot as you improve your people skills. Should you follow this advice? What does "Be yourself!" even mean?! I explain more in this episode. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

A LOT can happen in 10 years. In this episode, I'll walk you through an exercise by Debbie Millman that will help you get clear on what your life could look like in 10 years. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

We all have a lot of things we WANT to do, but wanting doesn’t mean much without deciding to take action. Learn the difference between wanting and deciding and take action to improve. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

It can be tough trying to stay social during quarantine. Here are a couple of tips to help you stay social and improve your people skills! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.

I'm trying a new format with this episode. (First in a series) You'll learn a people skills tip in about 10 minutes or less. Let me know what you think! This is a borderline superpower that will help you be your best socially. It took me years to learn this, and you'll learn it in about 8 minutes. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a question you'd like to have me answer on a future episode? Let me know on Instagram or Twitter. (@thejeffcallahan) or email me at jeff@becomemorecompelling.com.