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On this week’s episode: Since Halloween festivities have been curbed by COVID-19, Elizabeth, Jamilah and Isaac Butler have some ideas on how to celebrate safely. They answer a question about a kid who dresses up for Halloween but wants nothing to do with it this year. Then they answer a question about how to handle all the candy, especially this year when Trick-or-Treating is a safety risk. In Slate Plus: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Isaac reminisce over their favorite costumes and debate which costumes they’d like to see in stores this year. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Open Mike Eagle’s new album: Anime, Trauma + Divorce.  Isaac recommends Heidi Schreck’s What the Constitution Means to Me. Elizabeth recommends weighted blankets, which are especially helpful for anxiety.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth interview Dr. Joseph Allen from Harvard’s T.H. Chan School of Public Health who argues that remote school is failing our kids. Allen explains why virtual dropout is so concerning, especially to low income and minority students. They also discuss leadership failures and what infrastructure schools need to make sure they are safe for students, teachers and staff.  Following the interview, they answer a wild listener question about body shaming, blackmail, and ostracization.   In Slate Plus: How do you celebrate a kid’s birthday that’s constantly eclipsed by a holiday? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends trying embroidery with your kids. Specifically the kits from Oh Sew Bootiful.  Jamilah recommends Dole Whip. Since you probably won’t be at Disney any time soon, you may as well make it yourself.  Dan recommends a tactic if your kids aren’t

On this week’s episode: Jamilah Lemieux checks in with four of Slate’s Ask a Teacher columnists to see how this very unusual school year is going. Brandon Hersey, Cassy Sarnell, Matthew Dicks, and Amy Scott talk about ways their teaching styles have changed, some unexpected positive outcomes, and ways parents can help teachers help their kids. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Catch Jamilah’s Slate Live show The Kids Are Asleep every Thursday at 7 p.m. PT/10 p.m. ET. Stream it on Slate’s Facebook page or YouTube channel.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Thank you to Brandon Hersey, Cassy Sarnell, Matthew Dicks, and Amy Scott for their insight.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and June Thomas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth taped a live version of the show. If you want to watch the recording of the livestream, you can catch it on Slate’s Facebook and YouTube channel. It was super fun! They answered audience questions live and even had a super special guest, Shasha Léonard, to read the questions. And, as always, they shared triumphs and fails as well as recommendations.  In Slate Plus: They talked with Slate’s Greg Lavallee about his wonderful piece: Why I’m Teaching My Kids That Computers Are Dumb Machines. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends the Aerobie Flying Disk.  Jamilah recommends The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey and Michaela Angela Davis.  Dan recommends supporting student journalism and the film What the Constitution Means to Me.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Faceboo

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Dan are joined by two-time Olympic gold medalist and FIFA World Cup champion, Abby Wambach. She has some advice for raising a leader, on and off the field. She also talks about inspiring the next generation of leaders in her new book, Wolfpack (Young Readers Edition).   Then Elizabeth, Jamilah and Dan debate how to deal with parents who shout at their kids from the sidelines.   In Slate Plus: We have a bonus round of classic sports ‘Triumphs and Fails.’ Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends Cribbage, a game with the perfect combo of skill and luck.  Jamilah recommends Schitt's Creek. If you need a place to start watching. Slate’s Marissa Martinelli has you covered. Read her Gateway Episodes piece here.   Elizabeth recommends the Squatchi Children's Shoe Sizer.  Additional Recommendations: Catch our LIVE Mom and Dad are Fighting show Wednesday, Oct.

On this week’s episode: Dan, Elizabeth, and guest host Maya Feller answer a question about balancing extracurriculars with middle-school homework. And they advice a parent who desperately wants to tell the kids next door to get off her lawn.  In Slate Plus: Looking for fun, family-friendly fall recipes and activities? We’ve got ideas! And if you’re an autumn grouch, we also have some anti-fall propaganda from a host who will enthusiastically commiserate with you. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Can You Hear the Trees Talking? Discovering the Hidden Life of the Forest by Peter Wohlleben. Maya recommends Epic, a digital library for kids where they can read e-books and have stories read to them. Dan recommends the documentary Dick Johnson is Dead on Netflix. Additional Recommendations: Catch our LIVE Mom and Dad are Fighting show Wednesday, Oct. 14 at 8:00 p.m. ET.  The Kids Are Asleep,

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Rebecca answer a question about a mother who “feels like less of a parent” now that she shares 50/50 custody of her daughter, post separation. They also answer a question about how to teach a “threenager” to be polite.  In Slate Plus: We reflect on Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s passing. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends actually using your fancy dishes.  Rebecca recommends making the switch to cloth napkins. Bonus recommendation for adults: watch Borgen.  Jamilah recommends Celestial Seasonings’ Lemon Lavender Lane tea.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  Ruth Bader Ginsburg Has Died at 87 by Mark Joseph Stern Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Champion Of Gender Equality, Dies At 87 by Nina Totenberg Ruth Bader Ginsburg C

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question about a grandmother, who struggles with alcoholism, asking to take her grandkid on an overnight roadtrip. We also have a follow-up question about making friends with other parents during the pandemic.  In Slate Plus: We talk about the increase in mom shaming, online and among friends, during the pandemic. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Alphablocks, a Netflix show for younger kids. Jamilah recommends finding unique wallpaper and decor from Society6 and Spoonflower.  Dan recommends Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, a Netflix show that may be appropriate for teens.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  Mom Shaming’s Running Rampant During the Pandemic by Rosemary Counter.  Mom and Dad Are Fighting: W

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan answer a question about a kindergartener getting fed up with attending school via screen. They also answer a question from a mom worried that her little one said he wanted to kill her.  In Slate Plus: We reminisce on the totally cute, not annoying, cartoons our kids loved. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends the Asterix comic series.  Jamilah recommends watching P-Valley after your kids go to bed.  Elizabeth recommends Write and Draw Your Own Comics for car entertainment perfect for 8 year olds.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  The Rabbit Listened by Cori Doerrfeld.  The Phineas and Ferb Movie Applies the Matur-inator by Dan Kois. Related, Emily Nussbaum’s twitter thread about Candace Against the Universe. 

On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by registered dietitian, Maya Feller, to discuss lunches for in-person and at-home learners. How can parents make sure their kids are eating nutritious meals that still taste good? What can parents do about kids that graze in the kitchen all day? And when should they start packing their own lunch?  Follow Maya Fuller on Instagram or her website.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a parent adjusting to her young son wanting to wear girls clothing. They also answer a question about a mom who just needs some space from her preteen who glommed on to her during quarantine.  In Slate Plus: We settle whether or not it’s ridiculous to share astrology with your kids. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends the magnetic tangrams set from Chuckle & Roar.  Jamilah recommends Moesha and the Brandy vs Monica Verzuz Battle.  Dan recommends watching Lady Bird with your teen.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  My Son Loves My Little Pony. At 7, He Already Knows That’s Not OK. by Sean Williams.  Ackerman Institute for the Family What’s Your Sign, Baby? by Heather Schwedel.  Jo

On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Emily Bazelon to discuss bullying. A lot of interactions are classified as bullying, but what instances should actually be classified as bullying? Can parents prevent bullying? When should parents step in? How should children respond if bullying occurs?  Mentioned on the show: Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy by Emily Bazelon.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Carvell answer a question from a parent trying to support their college-age daughter who decided to postpone her education for a year. They also answer a follow-up question about how to approach conversations about race with a 5 year old after an initial attempt didn’t go so well.  In Slate Plus: Jamilah and Carvell talk about teachers that impacted their lives, for better or for worse. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends The Bug Bite Thing.  Carvell recommends Euphoria for those comfortable viewing mature content.  Jamilah recommends Freedom Gluten Free Doughnuts.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  Picture the Dream: The Story of the Civil Rights Movement Through Children’s Books.  Heritage Packs: Multicult

On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah discuss how to approach homework in a way that kids can complete their work without it becoming an ongoing chore for the entire family. They also have tips on what parents should do if they are routinely becoming overwhelmed by the amount of homework their kids are receiving.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah and Elizabeth are joined by Natalie Hopkinson. Natalie is an assistant professor in the doctoral program in Howard University’s Department of Communication, Culture and Media Studies. She is also an award-winning essayist, critical-cultural scholar and the author of three books: A Mouth Is Always Muzzled: Six Dissidents, Five Continents, and the Art of Resistance, Go-Go Live: The Musical Life and Death of a Chocolate City, and Deconstructing Tyrone.  They discuss college students making consequential decisions about whether or not they can, or should, return to campus. Many institutions are still changing policies, which may have significant consequences to students safety, financial welfare, travel plans, and quality of education. Especially if the student is in a field that requires hands-on experience.  The hosts also debate if a little one is sharing too much with his K9 bestie.  In Slate Plus: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Natalie reminisce about their college days. Slate Plus m

On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Ask a Teacher columnists Amy Scott and Brandon Hersey to discuss how parents should approach their kid’s teacher to make sure they form a good, working relationship. What’s the best way to communicate important information without overwhelming or overstepping? Now that some schools are opting for virtual learning, how can parents replicate the brief, but important, conversations that happen at pick up or in the halls? Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah and Elizabeth are joined by Denene Millner. Denene is an award-winning journalist, New York Times best-selling author, founder and editor of the parenting website MyBrownBaby.com, runs the inprint Denene Millner Books, and hosts two shows: Speakeasy with Denene and A Seat at the Table.  We have two listener questions this week. One is from a mother who is concerned about her teenage son’s rather conservative media consumption. They’ll also answer a question about how to teach empathy to a little one with a streak of egotistical behavior. In Slate Plus: Jamilah and Elizabeth will be talking to Denene about representation in children’s books. Sign up for Slate Plus.  Recommendations: Denene recommends Me & Mama by Cozbi A. Cabrera. If Dominican Were a Color written by Sili Recio and illustrated by Brianna McCarthy. Purchase these books at your independent bookstore.  Elizabeth recommends Chrome Music Lab. Jamilah recommends Girls Make Beats and the Girls Make Beats Instagra

This episode is brought to you by Target. See how easy it is to get ready for school this year, with Target. On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah discuss creating distraction-free study spaces at home, whether kids are finishing their homework or attending class online. But, with many parents also working from home, space is in demand. How can parents maximize their space by rethinking their home’s function?   Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth debate how to deal with a calorie-counting grandmother whose obsession with body image may rub off on her grandkids. They also answer a question from a mom looking for tips for how to better handle her young child’s anxiety.  In Slate Plus: Shasha Léonard is here to hear your screams into the void. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends spending time watching animals on Explore.org.  Jamilah recommends Okocat Unscented Natural Wood Clumping Cat Litter.  Dan recommends Go With the Flow by Lily Williams and Karen Schneemann.  Additional Recommendations: Mom and Dad are Fighting: What to Expect When You’re Unexpectedly the First Lady The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new q

This episode is brought to you by Target. See how easy it is to get ready for school this year, with Target. On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Slate Writer Ruth Graham to discuss whether or not parents should hold their kindergarten-aged children back a year. For some kids, kindergarten is their first introduction to a classroom setting. Is it worth waiting until in-person classes are safe? Or should kindergarteners start getting used to virtual learning?  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices