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On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Carvell Wallace to discuss how the Coronavirus has been impacting their areas and what they are going to do if their schools resort to online learning. We also ask Carvell YOUR catch-up questions, as posted on the Slate Parenting Facebook page! For Slate Plus: a listener question from a parent worried about her teenage son and stepson’s not-so-friendly competition for her affection. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Carvell recommends family time, which we seem to be well on our way to, because we only really have each other. Dan recommends wallpaper. Not the wallpaper that requires messy paste. No, we’re talking the wallpaper that’s essentially a glorified sticker. Patterns everywhere!     Jamilah recommends getting your children involved in politics.   Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thoug

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Emily Farranto to answer a question from a listener who works with kids and is thinking about having her own. Is constant contact with kids overwhelming? We also have a question from a mom whose son was hospitalized at 4 months after getting sick. But now her husband’s germaphobia is making daily life difficult. For Slate Plus: what forgotten historical figures would make the best costumes? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends preordering the picture book Who Will You Be? by Andrea Pippins. Dan recommends Love Letter, a fun, fast card game great for two to four people.   Emily recommends Cowboy Magic, a concentrated hair detangler great for horses...and HUMANS!   Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future

On this week’s episode: Dan is joined by Elizabeth Newcamp and Gabriel Roth to answer a question from a mom debating whether her son should take her last name or her husband’s last name. Or they could hyphenate, but will that burden her son later in life? We also have a question from a dad whose son plays travel hockey, even though he sucks at hockey. For Slate Plus, Elizabeth tells us the truth about homeschooling. Sign up for Slate Plus. Recommendations: Dan recommends the graphic novel Snapdragon by Kat Leyh, which is about a girl in a small town who finds a witch in her neighborhood. Elizabeth recommends “Paint by Sticker” books, a great on-the-go activity. Gabriel recommends Music Is My Life: Soundtrack Your Mood With 80 Artists for Every Occasion by Myles Tanzer and Ali Mac. A book that introduces kids to different musical artists. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Go

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Elizabeth Newcamp to answer a question from a mom worried about her young kids’ safety at the park. Is it okay to tell off older kids for not playing nicely? We also have a question from a listener who is looking to have a child and wants to set healthy boundaries with her mother when it comes to discipline tactics and alcohol consumption. Plus, a BONUS question from a mother who doesn’t know if she can accept the money her parents set aside for her twins’ college fund. For Slate Plus: a discussion about the division of household labor. Have changing views toward gender equality actually affected who does what in the home? Sign up for Slate Plus. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends buying a journal to take with you on trips when children aren’t tagging along. During the trip write notes to them and get others you see to write notes. Then when you get back you have a lovely trip memento that they can read. Dan recommends Street Angel: Deadliest Girl Alive

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Isaac Butler to answer a question from a mom trying to make up for a verbal slip in a moment of frustration. And we have a question from a mom who wants to fend off family pressure to baptize her child. For Slate Plus: a mini Mom and Dad are Fighting reunion! Dan talks to Allison Benedikt about her adventure taking Sam to the Westminster Dog Show. Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations:   Dan recommends Every Kid Outdoors, a program that allows 4th graders to get into all federal lands for free.  Jamilah recommends Harlem's Little Blackbird: The Story of Florence Mills by Renee Watson and Christian Robinson.   Isaac recommends digging into the Sondheim back catalogue, specifically Company, with your kids.   Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 42

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by poet, performer, and activist Staceyann Chin to field a question from a mom who’s worried she should give her son a year to grow before he starts kindergarten. Scott Brown, author of the YA novel XL and short guy, calls in to help. The hosts also discuss disproportionate expectations of maturity placed on black girls during childhood. For Slate Plus: a question from a mom wondering if she is can worry about her white son’s experience at a school that has predominantly black and Hispanic students. Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends The State of Black Girls: A Go-To Guide for Creating Safe Space for Black Girls by Marline Francois-Madden LCSW. Dan recommends the Newbery-winning comic New Kid by Jerry Craft. Staceyann recommends Ada Twist, Scientist by Andrea Beaty. Additional Reading: XL by Scott Brown. Why Won’t Society Let Black Girls Be Children? By A. Rochaun Meadows-Fernandez. Pushout: The Criminalization of Black G

On this week’s episode: A question from a mom who is feeling like the only parent at home due to her husband’s time-consuming commitment to assistant coaching a high school basketball team. Also, Jamilah wrote about her experience talking about Kobe Bryant’s death in this week’s Care and Feeding column. The hosts discuss Bryant, his daughter Gianna, and the challenge of talking about death with kids. During the discussion Elizabeth recommended two books: Margaret Wise Brown’s The Dead Bird and Melanie Watt’s Bug in a Vacuum. For Slate Plus, the hosts answer a second listener question from a mother-to-be wondering how she can preemptively set family boundaries with her eager in-laws. Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Dan recommends an adhesive whiteboard to transform your non-magnetic refrigerator into a centralized family bulletin board. Just don’t forget to remove the plastic lining! Jamilah recommends Cartoon Beatbox Battles on YouTube. Elizabeth recommends Stick-lets - little silicone ring

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Elizabeth Newcamp to answer a question from a mom with sons who is bothered when people ask her if she wants a daughter. While she loves having boys, the questions are annoying because, deep down, she thinks having a mother-daughter bond would be nice. They also answer a question from a mom looking for an appropriate way to ask parents if they keep guns in their house before letting her kids go over to play. For Slate Plus, Dan, Jamilah and Elizabeth play Would You Rather—parenting edition! Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Dan recommends two games good for gaggles of tweens and teens: Exploding Kittens and You’ve Got Crabs. Jamilah recommends facilitating time between your kids and your child-free friends.  Elizabeth recommends starting a book of centuries, a living document where you and your kids can fill in important dates. It helps your kids understand where they fit within a larger timeline. You can also download a free version to fil

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Care and Feeding columnist Nicole Cliffe. They answer a question from a mom whose brother’s suicide attempt is causing her to reevaluate her son’s relationship with his uncle. He’s recovering, but can she trust him to look after her eight year old? They also answer a question from a father whose kid regrets choosing an iPad over a Switch. Should he just break down and buy the Switch? And how can he teach his son that getting the next shiny thing doesn’t necessarily make you happy? For Slate Plus, special guest and Slate staff writer Ruth Graham discusses her parenting dilemma that included a highly anticipated trip and... barf? Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Dan recommends two Oscar nominations for your tweens and teens: Knives Out and Parasite. Jamilah tossed in the Oscar-nominated short, Hair Love. Many art-house theaters screen the Oscar nominated shorts; so go see them in person. Jamilah recommends Trader Joe’s cauliflower products.

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Laura Tisdel to answer listener questions. A mom wonders how to deal with the privilege disparity between her biracial black daughter and her white son after she noticed her son getting preferential treatment at daycare. Plus, a mom asks about taking the fall for her daughter when her daughter feels uncomfortable standing up to a friend. For Slate Plus, the hosts talk about the parenting vices they won’t be giving up in 2020. Sign up for Slate Plus here.   Recommendations: Laura recommends Rivers, Roads & Rails, a game where you collect pieces to make transportation pathways, plus Catherine Newman's list of her favorite games. Dan recommends Azul, a tile strategy game where you pretend to be building Portuguese tile art.   Jamilah recommends Surviving R. Kelly Part II: The Reckoning on Lifetime. Additional Reading: The Color Complex by Kathy Russell, Midge Wilson and Ronald Hall. In 2020, Skip Your Resolutions—Embrace a Vice by Slate Staff. Join us o

On this week’s episode: Jamilah is joined by former MADAF host Gabriel Roth to talk about their New Year’s parenting resolutions. Plus, they answer a listener question from a mom wondering if her husband’s napping is selfish. For Slate Plus, Jamilah and Gabriel compare the parents they thought they would be with the parents they actually are. Sign up for Slate Plus here.   Recommendations:   Jamilah recommends the Creatable World Deluxe Character Set, gender non-conforming dolls from Mattel.   Gabriel recommends building Lego sets with your kids, specifically the Hogwarts™ Whomping Willow™ Lego set. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.   Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.   Hosts Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Gabriel Roth

From yelling at kids to teens gallivanting around Europe to breast milk taste tests, 2019 has been a year of wonderful questions and conundrums from you—our fellow parents. On this week’s special edition: our favorite moments from this year’s Slate Plus segments. If you like what you hear in this episode, sign up for Slate Plus.   Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.   Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.   Hosts Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah is joined by Rebecca Lavoie to answer this week’s listener questions from moms contemplating changing schools because their biracial daughter is bothered about not fitting in, and a mother whose childcare provider is offering to do it for free. How can she ensure her neighbor is properly compensated for this service? For Slate Plus, Jamilah and Rebecca take advantage of Dan’s absence and respond to his article “The Decade in Dads” article with the Decade in Moms. Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends My Quotable Kid: A Parents' Journal of Unforgettable Quotes. Rebecca recommends recording your kids, stashing the audio away and surprising yourself with this self-made time capsule years later. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Podcas

If you have any school-aged children in your life, you know that lockdown and active shooter drills have become a routine part of their school experience. These drills now take place in 95 percent of American schools. What you’re about to hear is a collaboration between Slate and The Trace, a nonprofit newsroom covering gun violence in the United States. It’s an audio project featuring firsthand accounts from kids of all ages about what it’s like to go through these drills. We hear a lot about school shootings, but we’re only starting to have a larger conversation about how they affect even those kids who may never go through one.  You can hear more from the students at slate.com/lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by guest host Michelle Herman, novelist, professor, and Care and Feeding columnist. They answer listener questions from a parent looking for ways to make Christmas enjoyable and a mother who is feeling left out of mother-child bonding experiences. For Slate Plus, Dan tells Lyra’s favorite new joke. (It’s awful.) Sign up for Slate Plus here.  Recommendations: Michelle recommends asking your kids for advice. And not just tech advice!  Jamilah recommends How to Be a Family: The Year I Dragged My Kids Around the World to Find a New Way to Be Together by Dan Kois. Perhaps you’ve heard of it?  Dan recommends “Hush,” a Season 3 episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Ho

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and guest host Katherine Goldstein answer listener questions from a parent looking for ways to enjoy family visits and a neighbor who is worried for the kids next door who were left behind. For Slate Plus, what should you NOT say to someone expecting twins. Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends matching outfits with your kid. Katherine recommends Shrinky Dinks as a creative way to pass a few hours. Dan recommends That Was Awkward: The Art and Etiquette of the Awkward Hug from Emily Flake. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Hosts Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are live from the Miami Book Fair where they are joined by Pamela Paul, author of How to Raise a Reader and Adam Mansbach, author of Fuck, Now There Are Two of You. This week the hosts discuss scaring their kids with inappropriate books and making the most out of children with different schedules. For Slate Plus, the hosts discuss if parenting really is harder nowadays—or do we just hear more about the trials and tribulations in books, blogs or even, ahem, podcasts… Sign up for Slate Plus here.  Recommendations: Jamilah recommends non-traditional Thanksgiving dinner.  Dan recommends game-ifying Christmas stockings.  Pamela recommends Lucy Knisley’s book You Are New.  Adam recommends the book Laugh Lines: Forty Years Trying to Make Funny People Funnier. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call an

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and guest host Elizabeth Newcamp answer listener questions from a mom who is contemplating telling her son he was unplanned before his father tells him. Plus, a guide to making friends with other parents from a military mom who has to do it every three years. How can you make the leap from school yard acquaintances to actual friends? For Slate Plus, the hosts reminisce about amusement park memories. Can parents actually have fun? Or is it all about the kids? Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends the U.S National Park Service’s Junior Ranger Program. And in a stunning moment of unplanned host telepathy - Jamilah and Dan recommend the same thing: creating special handshakes with your kids. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and guest host Greg Lavallee answer listener questions from a parent whose daughter is afraid of the water and a mom who needs a response strategy for a disrespectful kiddo. For Slate Plus, the hosts strategize date night. Are microdates the solution to a busy schedule? Or is it worth the effort of hiring a babysitter to go out? Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends a newfangled entertainment destination… a place where you could spend hours without spending any money…. The MALL. Greg recommends Shashibo, a mesmerizing magnetic puzzle. Dan recommends Boom Blast Stix for little kids and Telestrations for bigger ones. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Hosts Dan Kois is an editor and writer

This episode is brought to you by Everlane. Check out your personalized collection today at everlane.com/momanddad.  On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Dan and guest host Ezekiel answer listener questions from a mom whose ex-husband’s abrupt move may upend her living arrangements. And the hosts strategize how they’ll survive Elsa’s new big song in Frozen 2 with Slate’s Ruth Graham. For Slate Plus, the hosts advise parents on how to talk to kids about big social issues, like climate change and racism. Sign up for Slate Plus here.  Recommendations: Jamilah recommends improving with your kids, which is fun and free.  Ezekiel recommends The Lorax movie - the 1972 version only.   Dan recommends The Authority, a new podcast where Dan and Slate’s Laura Miller break down His Dark Materials.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a