Divorce & Other Things You Can Handle

In this final episode of Wise and Worthy, we want to leave you with the 7 Essentials When Navigating Divorce. Whether you're in the thick of the divorce process or reflecting on life after, these essentials will provide you with the tools and mindset needed to navigate this difficult time with grace, clarity, and strength.We also have a number of resources for you in our show notes, including links to some of our favorite divorce podcasts AND some FREE GIFTS to help you along the way!!So let’s jump in…The first essential is…1. Emotional Support: Therapy, Coaching, and CommunityDivorce is emotionally taxing, and it’s vital to have the right support in place. We discuss the value of therapy, divorce coaching, and surrounding yourself with loved ones who offer healthy, unbiased support. When emotions run high, having professionals to guide you and a solid emotional foundation is essential for making sound decisions.2. Get Educated: Legal Guidance You Can TrustDon’t take legal advice from just anyone! It’s crucia

Divorce can be an emotionally turbulent time, often marked by feelings of shame, fear, and regret. These emotions can be overwhelming, clouding judgment and making it difficult to move forward. Shame can create a deep sense of inadequacy, leading individuals to question their self-worth and value. Fear, whether it's about the future or the unknown, can paralyze decision-making and foster a sense of helplessness. Regret often lingers, replaying past mistakes and missed opportunities, trapping individuals in a cycle of negative thinking that prevents healing. These emotional burdens not only affect mental and emotional well-being but can also impact physical health, relationships, and one's ability to make sound decisions during the divorce process.The consequences of being consumed by these feelings are profound. When shame, fear, and regret dominate, they can lead to destructive behaviors, such as isolation, anger, or even self-sabotage. This emotional turmoil often results in prolonged conflict, financial st

Navigating a divorce is challenging enough without the added stress of difficult conversations that often arise during the process. Whether you’re discussing finances, co-parenting arrangements, or simply setting new boundaries, these conversations can be incredibly daunting. In this episode, we explore how to approach these tough discussions with confidence, clarity, and compassion.Some of the key topics we discuss include: Understanding Emotional Triggers: Learn how to recognize and manage the emotional triggers that can escalate conversations, ensuring you stay calm and focused on your desired outcomes. Effective Communication Strategies: Discover practical tools to express your needs and boundaries clearly, without resorting to blame or anger. Navigating Co-Parenting Talks: Get tips on how to approach co-parenting discussions in a way that prioritizes your children’s well-being while honoring your own boundaries. Setting Boundaries: Understand the importance of establishing and enforcing boundaries that p

In this episode, we explore a transformative approach to grief that redefines how we navigate loss. We introduce a new paradigm encapsulated in the acronym GRIEF: Ground, Release, Integrate, Establish, Foster. This approach not only helps us heal but also opens doors to new possibilities and growth.Grief is an ongoing journey, not just a one-time event. Throughout life, we all experience grief through both large and small losses. These moments of grief are not just painful—they are also deeply informative. They reveal what we hold most dear and valuable. Furthermore, when we experience loss, we often grieve not just the tangible aspects but also the part of ourselves that we were before the loss.Joining me is Shelby Forsythia, the founder of Life After Loss Academy and host of the Dear Grief Guide podcast. Shelby is a grief guide and author who has dedicated her life to helping others navigate the complex journey of grief. With her compassionate and insightful approach, she has empowered countless individuals

In this episode of the Wise and Worthy Podcast, we tackle a common and often frustrating dynamic in co-parenting: the Responsible Parent vs. Fun Parent dilemma. After a divorce, it’s not uncommon for one parent to take on the role of the disciplinarian and taskmaster, ensuring that rules are followed, homework is completed, and responsibilities are met. Meanwhile, the other parent might embrace a more carefree, fun-loving approach, where everything feels like a vacation and boundaries are blurred. While this may seem harmless on the surface, it can create deep resentment for the parent shouldering most of the responsibilities and lead to confusion and unrealistic expectations for the children.The challenges of navigating this dynamic can cause significant strain, not only on the co-parenting relationship but also on the emotional well-being of the children. The responsible parent may feel overwhelmed and underappreciated, while the fun parent often enjoys the admiration of the kids without acknowledging the l

In this enlightening episode, we're thrilled to welcome Heather Merkel, CPC (Certified Professional Coach), a New York Times featured Travel Lifestyle and Business Coach. Heather, who has transformed her life from being stuck behind a corporate desk for over 25 years, to a full-time traveler exploring 39 countries on six continents, shares her insights on how full-time travel can help women rediscover themselves after divorce. Heather's journey began with a planned six-month career break in 2017, which turned into a lifelong passion and a new career helping others achieve the same freedom. She’s now a TEDx speaker and a best-selling author, inspiring many to embrace a travel lifestyle.Heather discusses the profound ways full-time travel can facilitate self-discovery and healing after a divorce. She explains what full-time travel truly means and how it can be accessible to women of various ages and income levels. Heather offers practical tips on how to begin thinking about affording a full-time travel lifestyl

No matter how much we desire something in our lives, in the areas that we struggle, we are bumping up against our blind spots. These are limiting beliefs hidden under the cover of our consciousness. It is our unconscious, limiting beliefs that hamstring our efforts toward love, success, abundance and so much more.  As you navigate your divorce and look forward for the best next chapter of your life, make sure you attend to your blind spots so that you can truly attain and live your dream life. But how do you do that?  Today’s guest speaks to us about our ‘shadow’ side, where it comes from, what it’s role is and how to tame it to align with our heart’s desires. Tune in and get into action as Junie guides us through her shadow healing process and shares free gifts to help you along the way!Junie Moon is the CEO of Midlife Love Out Loud. She is a Global Love Mentor, Best-selling Author, Women's Empowerment Leader, and Certified Shadow Work® Coach. Junie has supported thousands of women over the past 30 years to

Divorce can be a tumultuous journey, often fraught with emotional and financial challenges that many underestimate. Today we’re going to explore practical steps to achieve a fair and balanced separation. From understanding the importance of open communication and mutual respect to strategically planning financial decisions, Jamie provides invaluable insights that can help you transition smoothly into the next chapter of your life. We touch on approaching your spouse in a way that avoids destroying family finances and staying solution-oriented when addressing living situations, all while embarrassing the crucial role of compromise.Turn this potentially adversarial process into a constructive and financially sound resolution by discovering the key principles that can lead to an amicable divorce, ensuring both parties emerge with your dignity intact and financial well-being protected. Learn how to identify absolute necessities versus desirable extras, paving the way for a balanced and respectful outcome. It is o

Today, we dive into a crucial topic exploring the unique role and impact of a divorce coach, and how this relatively new profession can be a game-changer during your divorce journey.When facing divorce, most people immediately think, "I need an attorney." Many also feel emotionally overwhelmed and reach out to a therapist. While these are key support people, the divorce coach remains the ‘new kid on the block’. After 14 years of coaching men and women through divorce, I still notice how many people don’t know what a divorce coach is or how one might benefit from working with one.Divorce coaching is about providing strategic, emotional, and practical support tailored to your unique needs. Unlike therapists, we help clients understand the legal landscape, the vital importance of being educated on the financial aspect of divorce, and act as a sounding board around custody decisions and complex financial negotiations.Our approach is non-judgmental and compassionate, yet bold. We inspire your future self, infuse e

Today, we're diving into a topic that affects us all, especially in the wake of divorce—our financial future and retirement. We're going to explore how to navigate the financial changes that come with divorce, ensuring you're prepared for the future. From understanding the importance of knowing all your passwords to crafting a financial love letter, we'll cover the essential steps to safeguard your financial well-being and your family's legacy.Our guest today is Jennifer Lee, a seasoned financial advisor and the founder of Modern-Wealth. With over two decades of experience, Jennifer has dedicated her career to helping individuals secure their financial futures. Since relocating her practice to Lakewood Ranch, Florida, she has become an active community leader and a trusted advisor. Jennifer is also the author of "Squeeze The Juice," a book that mixes her life experiences with professional expertise to encourage readers to be their best selves.In today's episode, Jennifer will share her insights on how to effe

With me today is Nick Meima, a trailblazer in online divorce recovery, having launched a transformative 10-week program 12 years ago that's now global in scope, including Spanish, French, and Chinese-speaking countries. He specializes in individual and couples coaching, focusing on navigating divorce, life challenges, and relationship dynamics. His work empowers individuals to explore pathways of mending, bending, or ending relationships constructively.Divorce isn’t easy. It’s complex, with tons of moving parts and often impacts much more than just the couple. In this episode, we delve into the complexities that lead to divorce. We'll discuss how the legacies of past relationships and early coping mechanisms play a significant role in shaping our marital dynamics. This conversation aims to uncover the deep-seated reasons behind marital breakdowns and the emotional storms they unleash.Together, we will also address the fears and limiting beliefs that emerge through the divorce process, which often hinder recov

If you're stepping back into the dating scene after a divorce, you're not alone. The dating landscape has transformed significantly, and navigating it can feel overwhelming. Matchmakers offer a personalized service that stands apart from the digital frenzy of dating apps. They understand your unique situation and are equipped to find matches that align with your expectations and lifestyle, easing the transition and boosting your confidence in finding love again.Matchmakers excel where dating apps can overwhelm, particularly for those who haven't dated in decades. They provide a curated experience, selecting potential partners who share your values and interests, thus offering a more direct path to a meaningful connection. Their discreet, one-on-one service ensures privacy and personalized attention, prioritizing quality over quantity—a crucial aspect for those who value their privacy.With me today is Lisa Goodman, Vice President of Selective Search and a renowned dating expert. With an 87% success rate and a

Divorce challenges us deeply, shaking the very foundations of who we are. Yet, it also presents a unique opportunity for profound self-discovery and growth through self-love. Embracing self-compassion allows us to navigate the grieving process with kindness, acknowledging our pain while also recognizing our inner strength and worth. This journey of self-love not only facilitates healing but empowers us to rebuild a life filled with joy and fulfillment beyond the shadows of our past relationship.With me today is Sanaiyah Gurnamal. She is a theta healing master practitioner, and certified Mind Valley Coach and a certified clinical hypnotherapist. Sanaiyah believes that the most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself, becoming the blueprint for how others will love you. She is on a mission to empower women to activate the power of self-love and create a love-centered life.

Today we are speaking with an expert in human behavior and relationship coaching who is sharing her unique approach to working with the divorcing couple through the process. Guiding them in productive conversations that help avoid unnecessary struggles and expense and open the possibility of a healthier post divorce life for the changing family.

When Susie’s husband left her four years ago, she took life’s harsh blow as a massive call to action. Suddenly a single mother with three young kids under the age of 5, Susie used her previous manufacturing contacts and design experience to turn her anti-shapewear idea into a global business. Susie is at the forefront of the anti-shapewear movement, which rejects prolonged body compression and the use of non-breathable synthetic materials. She has successfully launched Skanties in the Australian market in 2019 as a single mother of three young children.

Co-parenting post divorce can be difficult, especially when you first step away from emotionally charged divorce negotiations and into a cooperative new parenting dynamic. How our co-parenting experience unfolds will depend somewhat on how your co-parent behaves…but you have little to no control over that. It largely depends on your perspective and behavior and what you bring to the table.Today’s guest lives and works in the co-parenting space and has noticed and addressed the difficulties that arise when those of us with people pleasing tendencies enter this co-parenting dynamic. We will be speaking today about her new book “The People-Pleasers Guide to Co-Parenting Well” which reveals how prioritizing peacekeeping may hinder your ability to co-parent successfully. Her book provides a simple framework for shifting into being an intentional, in-control, and purpose-driven parent.More ways to contact Mikki Gardener:SM: @MikkiGardnerPodcast: Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/co-parenting-with-confi

Fear and uncertainty often leave us presenting as a bit of a hot mess post-divorce. In this episode, Theresa Lear Levine joins to discuss this opportunity to heal and take a close look at how we choose to be in our lives.

Virtually everyone who works in the divorce industry will agree that the court system is broken and often does more harm than good for those facing divorce. Unless your situation is extreme and needing the heavy hand of the court, there are significantly better, more amicable approaches to dissolving your marriage such as mediation and the collaborative process. Family lawyer, Andrea Vacca, joins to discuss.

There are many ways to approach divorce. Today we are talking about a few simple but powerful exercises you can do to advance a swift settlement in your case. Our guest, Randi Karmel recommends her clients begin with crystal clarity. She has them write the following lists to get clear on what they want and where they do and don’t have flexibility.

One of the hardest steps we have to take when entering divorce is telling our kids and then navigating these turbulent early stages with their best interest in mind.  There is a lot of excellent advice on when and how to tell. Today we add some nuance to the conversation. Telling the kids in a ‘garden variety’ divorce may look different than a high conflict divorce. We talk about doing what is best for the children, not you or your spouse; keeping it age appropriate and sharing comforting details of what comes next without overwhelming them with too much information.