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You've got two lovely kids, and you're perfectly content to stop there, but your spouse has other plans. How do you break the news you're not of like mind to have a third? We'll try to tackle this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/292. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your spouse has been pushing for a third child, but you figure two is enough. Is there a way to find common ground? Your sibling and their fiance have decided to get married on one of the few nights you can't get out of work. To whom do you owe your loyalty? Y

When a family inheritance is split between two siblings, only one of them is given control over how the money is spent due to the other's penchant for get-rich-quick scams and bad investments. What can the family do to close the rift this power dynamic is causing while ensuring half of the inheritance isn't wasted on a pyramid scheme? This and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/290. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? It's filling up fast; reach out to prison@jordanharbi

Akshay Nanavati (@fearvanalife) is a former Marine who has survived PTSD, depression, alcoholism, and suicidal ideation to build a global business, run ultramarathons, and explore the world's most hostile environments. He is also the author of Fearvana: The Revolutionary Science of How to Turn Fear into Health, Wealth and Happiness. What We Discuss with Akshay Nanavati: What going on a seven-day retreat in total darkness and isolation taught Akshay about himself that transcended rationality and the reality of his senses. Why Akshay believes that the single greatest barrier standing in the way of our well-being is our negative relationship to suffering -- such as the way we demonize fear, stress, and anxiety. What does Akshay mean when he recommends finding "the worthy struggle" that will make our suffering meaningful? Stillness accompanied by consciousness and intention versus doing nothing, and what we risk by being afraid to confront what lurks in the space of our deepest darkness. Why Akshay considers

Erik Weihenmayer (@ErikWeihenmayer) has kayaked the Grand Canyon and climbed Mount Everest -- blind. He is the author of Touch the Top of the World and co-author of No Barriers and The Adversity Advantage. What We Discuss with Erik Weihenmayer: How challenges unite us as human beings -- no matter our hardships or handicaps. Why losing his sight as a teenager didn't discourage Erik from excelling beyond the capacity of the world's most accomplished extreme athletes. How Erik embraces a "no barriers" philosophy to guide and lift others -- even when their own cultures seek to keep them down. Why Erik's not "the blind climber," but a climber who happens to be blind -- and why this makes all the difference. The instincts, senses, and technology that allow Erik to navigate around his dangerous terrains of choice without sight. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/288 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development

You find criticism somewhat punishing rather than productive -- especially when it's given by people you love. So how can you stop taking feedback so personally? We'll explore this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/287 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How should we refer to our listener base? Is there a reason to share your salary with anyone else? Is it your imagination that there's tension between you and the only other woman in the office? As a business owner, how should you respond to competition fishing for pricing? H

Jack Barsky (@DeepCoverBarsky) joins us to discuss his book Deep Undercover: My Secret Life and Tangled Allegiances as a KGB Spy in America. This is part two of a two-part episode; part one can be found here! What We Discuss with Jack Barsky: We continue Jack Barsky's story that began in episode 285. Make sure you start there! How Jack handled a double life -- complete with two families. Why the once-powerful allure of Soviet-style communism began to wane over time for Jack. Why Jack decided to stay in the United States and become a "real" American. How Jack shook his KGB handlers. And so much more... And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/286 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art1

Jack Barsky (@DeepCoverBarsky) joins us to discuss his book Deep Undercover: My Secret Life and Tangled Allegiances as a KGB Spy in America. This is part one of a two-part episode; part two airs later this week! What We Discuss with Jack Barsky: What Jack Barsky's childhood was like in postwar East Germany. The stickiness of Soviet-style communist ideology and how it appealed to young people on Jack's side of the Iron Curtain. How spies were recruited and trained during the Cold War. What skills Jack used to assimilate seamlessly into American culture. Why caution is a spy's best friend; paranoia is his enemy. And so much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/285 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at

While doing a little Facebook stalking recently, you noticed that photos of your wife's ex-boyfriend's youngest look suspiciously like your own youngest. You're thinking about discreetly having your kid take a paternity test, but you're honestly not sure what you'd do if the results confirmed your suspicions. So what should you do? We'll try to help you with this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/284. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Should you secretly undertake a paternity test on your 11-year old? You're a cybersecurity s

Brian Koppelman (@BrianKoppelman) is a writer, filmmaker, producer, and director. He's currently the showrunner, co-creator, and executive producer of Billions on Showtime and the host of The Moment podcast. What We Discuss with Brian Koppelman: Law school is an expensive (but not completely useless) place to learn life lessons. How do you know when you've done work of "undeniable" quality -- in the absolute sense? The line between being an artist and being delusional is very thin. If you want to be a screenwriter, read a thousand screenplays. We focus so much on the hustle that sometimes we forget to focus on the work. And so much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/283 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Pol

Ken Perenyi is a former art forger who spent 34 years creating fake paintings that passed muster among the experts in the world's major auction houses and galleries. He comes clean to tell us how he got away with it in his book Caveat Emptor: The Secret Life of an American Art Forger. What We Discuss with Ken Perenyi: How Ken, as an academically disinclined New Jersey teenager with no artistic background and zero plans for the future, fell headfirst into the New York art scene of the '60s and '70s. What a fortuitous trip to The Metropolitan Museum of Art awakened in Ken and how it led from technical curiosity to natural talent to outright forgery. How Ken prematurely aged his work to appear hundreds of years old, the materials he used, and how long it took him to create forgeries that would fool even lifelong, devoted experts. The first nervous deal Ken ever made and how it fed an ambition to take his talents as far as they would go. How Ken survived scrutiny by the mafia and FBI, changed his ways, and

Your shopaholic wife spends like there's no tomorrow, and is irked that you won't add her to the account for the business you've been running since before you were married. In fact, she loves to gain sympathy from others by telling them you're hiding money away from her -- which irks you. But one practical question did recently come up: What happens to the money in that account if anything should ever happen to you and she doesn't have access to it? On this Feedback Friday, we delve into this and much more! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/281. On This Week's Feedback Friday,

Dr. Sarah Hill (@sarahehillphd) is a leading researcher in the dynamic and rapidly expanding field of evolutionary psychology, and the author of This Is Your Brain on Birth Control: The Surprising Science of Women, Hormones, and the Law of Unintended Consequences. What We Discuss with Dr. Sarah Hill: How hormonal birth control affects women -- and the world around them -- in ways we are just now beginning to understand. Why a woman will be attracted to a certain partner while taking hormonal birth control -- and the problems this could cause for a relationship when she stops taking it. On a hormonal contraceptive, a woman is twice as likely to have attempted suicide as a woman who was not on a hormonal contraceptive. Why, in spite of its drawbacks, Sarah credits the pill to her own ability to achieve a doctorate and career success. Why these new findings should be a rallying cry for women to demand more information from science about how their bodies and brains work and to advocate for better research.

Dennis Quaid has been a Hollywood leading man for decades, fronts a band called The Sharks, and now stars in a new scripted musical podcast called Bear and a Banjo. What We Discuss with Dennis Quaid: Whether or not getting rejected for a coveted job in Hollywood ever gets easier -- even when you've been getting cast for decades. Why Dennis considers fear his greatest motivator -- and what this indicates to him when he feels it upon being offered a role. The hardest place to get respect, the greatest things our kids teach us, and where dad jokes go to die. Listening versus improvising, and how Dennis brings his characters to life without strictly memorizing his lines before arriving on set. Accents, biographical misinformation, and how learning to play a real-life astronaut led to Dennis learning how to fly real-life planes. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/279 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship developme

When you were kids, you and your brother moved to the other side of the country with your mother and stepfather not long after your parents divorced. You never saw your father again, and believed your mother when she said that he and his mother -- your grandmother -- had died. Fast forward to now. You and your brother are adults, and he's got a bombshell to drop: your grandmother is still alive, and your father only recently passed away. Feeling betrayed, you've pieced together your mother and stepfather's systematic strategy to estrange you from your dad's side of the family (who, by the way, tried to find you over that time without success) -- and you're angry. You feel robbed of the time you could have spent with them, and you're wondering how you should raise the issue with your mother -- or if you should. This is obviously a sensitive situation, but we'll do our best to help you with this and more on the latest Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) a

Neil Pasricha (@neilpasricha) is a New York Times bestselling author of five books including The Book of Awesome, The Happiness Equation, and his latest, You Are Awesome: How to Navigate Change, Wrestle with Failure, and Live an Intentional Life. What We Discuss with Neil Pasricha: Why anxiety is at an all-time high when we live in an age of relative ease compared to what our ancestors (and even recent generations) endured.  Why you need to be prepared — and willing — to lose more if you want to win more from what life has to offer. How to set up incredibly productive untouchable days where you're basically unplugged and unreachable — even when you have bosses and significant others who may be resistant to the idea. How to use the Saturday morning test to brainstorm new skills, adventures, and personal improvements you'd like to implement. A failure budget you can use to try new things, fail, and rejoin the fray — enhanced by the experience, but with relatively few scrapes and bruises. And much more… Ful

James Stavridis (@stavridisj) is a retired United States Navy admiral, operating executive with The Carlyle Group, and author. His latest book, Sailing True North: Ten Admirals and the Voyage of Character, is out now. What We Discuss with James Stavridis: What Admiral Stavridis means when he says we're "overweight in thinking about leadership and underweight in thinking about character." Why creativity and innovation are important for leaders -- and the roadblocks that tend to smother these qualities as we achieve in our lives and careers. Principles followed when top brass make decisions that put people in harm's way. The winners and losers in the recent decision to pull US troops from Syria and what this means for our former allies in the region. Meditations on single malt scotch whisky and the dangers of bringing alcohol to sea on a US Navy ship. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/276 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking

Your fiance travels and stays in hotels at different locations every week for work. The other day, you found black Victoria's Secret panties in your laundry. The thing it, you don't wear Victoria's Secret. So you approached him and said, "I need help understanding how this is in our belongings." He said this is a truly unfortunate situation because he doesn't know how it got there. You closely watched him for any signs that would alarm you as hints of lying. You found none. Is there any surefire way to know if a significant other is cheating beyond what amounts to circumstantial evidence? We'll try to unlock this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordan

Darren Prince (@agent_dp) is a prominent sports and celebrity agent and global advocate for addiction and recovery. His book Aiming High: How a Prominent Sports and Celebrity Agent Hit Bottom at the Top is out now.[Featured photo by Ryan Hartford of Ecliptic Media] What We Discuss with Darren Prince: How Darren was making multiple six figures by the time he was old enough to drive.  What got Darren started on a 24-year journey of addiction and how he found the exit to a recovery that's been going on for 11 years strong now. What it's like to go drinking with Dennis Rodman and rely on him to be the responsible one when it's time to wake up and go to work the next morning. What Darren does to fulfill his mission to help others avoid and break free from addiction. Lots of celebrity stories from someone who's not just an agent for his clients — he's also their fan. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/274 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free netw

Scott Adams (@ScottAdamsSays) is the creator of comic strip Dilbert, a talent stacker extraordinaire, and bestselling author. His latest book, Loserthink: How Untrained Brains Are Ruining America, is out now. What We Discuss with Scott Adams: Why the term “loserthink” isn't about being uninformed — it's about unproductive thinking. Mental models we use that sometimes fail us, and thinking traps that we fall into when we're looking to interpret communication, evaluate facts or evidence, and form opinions. How to evaluate fake news and see why the business models of many media outlets have been redesigned to keep us engaged at the expense of accuracy and truth. When and how to dial down our ego so we can clarify our thinking, and also when and how we can use our ego as a tool to move forward. Ways to evaluate and poke holes in bad arguments, and strengthen our own methods of thinking and arguing. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/273 Sign up for S

Last week you texted your parents to let them know you'd be able to make it home for Christmas this year. They called back to tell you how they decided several years ago to buy a boat. The only problem was that they didn't have the $20,000 to buy it. Their solution? Take out a student loan in your name, of course! Now they've missed several payments and it's about to default, and your father had the nerve to say, "If you're going to make a big deal about this, it's best if you don't come home this year." In shock and 'about' $25,000' in debt, you're wondering if you should sue your parents for identity theft. On this Feedback Friday, we'll do our best to help you figure out not only if, but how to sue your parents for identity theft if you decide it's the right thing to do. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, regist