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As doppelgangers go, Talakai is the ultimate winner. And now he can credit his likeness for his latest opportunity. Talakai is a 34-year-old singer from Sacramento. He turned chairs with his rendition of Sam Smith's "Stay With Me" during the blind auditions on "The Voice." Then, he turned heads with his uncanny resemblance to judge John Legend. “Wait until you see his face,” Legend told Niall Horan and Gwen Stefani as the other coaches turned their chairs following Talakai’s performance. Twinning with a superstar is nothing new for Talakai. He can't go anywhere without someone saying something. The thing is, Talakai can sing. Like, really sing. And now the world, and John Legend, know it. Talakai stopped by the KCRA 3 studios in his now signature "Legend" jacket and charmed everyone he met. He's as likable as he is talented and is enjoying every minute of what he calls "the best week of my life." He is seizing the moment and has advice on how you can, too. On this Dying to Ask: What it's like to have a famous

What if I told you the key to personal growth could be forgetting everything you know? It's called a beginner's mind, and it's worth mastering. It's the idea of approaching something with a 100% fresh perspective or like you've never done it before. Do you remember the thrill of riding a bike? How about learning to read? Speaking another language and actually having someone understand what you're saying? Beginner's mind is a little like the social media trend, "I was today years old when..." It's a powerful tool. Mastering a beginner's mindset can pay off big time for your physical and mental health. And it's linked to boosting creativity and overall happiness. On this Dying to Ask: The areas of your life that can benefit from a beginner's mindset. Three ways to develop a beginner's mind.

The Korean Wave continues and it's coming after your pores. Korean exports of beauty products have surpassed smartphones. Elise Hu is the author of "Flawless: Lessons in Looks and Culture from the K-Beauty Capital." Hu is a journalist and podcaster who currently is the host of "Ted Talks Daily." Flawless is inspired by her years working as an NPR bureau chief in Seoul, South Korea. The book examines how South Korea's pervasive beauty culture spread globally as the latest ripple of a Korean Wave of entertainment and tech. "Six out of 10 of all Netflix subscribers in the world have watched some sort of Korean content. When it comes to Korean beauty, Korea is now exporting more cosmetics and skin care and skin care tools than it exports in smartphones," Hu said. Hu's book is part memoir, part international investigative reporting, and well-researched. Fun fact: Elise and I are both graduates of the University of Missouri School of Journalism, and our former professor connected us for this interview! On this 'Dyi

Growing up on the internet may not be as bad as we thought. The first generation of kids exposed to a fully digital childhood is coming of age. Their childhoods have been radically different than their parents' childhoods. That's led a lot of parents to instinctively want to control kids' access to things like screen time and social media by installing limits and trackers on phones. It's like a digital tug-of-war between parent and child with sometimes unintended consequences. Dr. Devorah Heitner is an expert in all things family and tech and she has spent years looking at the impact of screens on kids. Her new book, Growing Up in Public, examines the good and bad about growing up in a digital world. Her message is non-judgmental and in many ways, she's more positive about teen screen exposure than their parents are. In fact, a lot of teens are expressing frustration with their parents after, in some cases, discovering how much of their childhood was shared on social media. Heitner says parents often express

It's back to school time and that means back to anxiety for a lot of families. But four easy tips could lessen stress for kids and parents. Jenn Curtis is an educational consultant, the founder of FutureWise, and co-author of "The Parent Compass." She says back to school stress is normal. But, going into the school year with a plan can help. The school year is a natural reset for families and a great time to shake up habits, both in and out of the classroom. Jenn has four tips to help improve academic success for kids. The funny thing? Those tips are applicable to all ages! It starts with setting out some goals and then setting your kids (and yourself) up for success. On this Dying to Ask: How to set goals with your kids for the school year Why you need a "family meeting" at the start of the year How to form a "what if" plan in case kids run into trouble academically 4 tips to set your kid (and yourself) up for success this school year

Making a mark without leaving a digital footprint. It's tough to do, but debut novelist Elizabeth Castellano is pulling it off. Elizabeth, or Liz as she goes by, is the author of "Save What's Left." In a field where a strong digital footprint is often a predictor of professional success, Liz is defying the odds. Her book is one of the most buzzed-about titles this summer. People Magazine called it one of the best books of the summer. You can credit a lot of things for Liz's success, but a strong social media presence isn't one of them. Liz has a three-line bio on her website and doesn't do social media. "I got off social media a couple of years after college. I just decided not for me. I don't like it. I think there's more harm than good. I just felt better being off of it, and so it just stuck, and you do miss things," says Liz. On this 'Dying to Ask': What pushed Liz off social media, and how that impacted her mental health and creativity. How unusual it is for a "creative" not to use social media to promot

Been there, done that. I've never been so glad to say that covering a one-year countdown to an Olympics. It's been a few years since that milestone didn't involve significant talk about the pandemic. This year felt, dare I say it, normal. I had that realization while doing an interview with 2008 Olympic Gold Medalist Gabe Gardner. I covered Gardner's golden moment in Beijing and we've been friends ever since. Gabe is still active with Team USA. He's worked as an athlete liaison and Board Member for the United States Olympic and Paralympic Endowment. Gabe is one of my go-to interviews as we hit the one-year mark to an Olympics. In the last couple of Olympics, we've focused on pandemic protocols, masking, testing and all things COVID-19. This year, we talked about the fun stuff. It was deliciously normal. And we both remarked after the interview that it felt good to get back to something we'd done before. Been there, done that. On this Dying to Ask: A challenge to all of us to recognize and appreciate these mom

Three words: less is more. That's the advice from professional organizer Kim Salisbury of Home Method Co when it comes to packing up and moving into a college dorm room. Kim has helped families organize college dorms for years. This year, she'll take her own advice when her oldest child heads to college this fall. "The most important thing that I can say is, don't bring too much, because that's what we have found. That's happening over and over again. You don't need to, much less is more," Salisbury said. Easier said than done. But, studies show an organized living space is key to focus, productivity and happiness. Creating a welcoming and simplified space can go a long way in boosting mental health. See the full top 10 list of must-have dorm items on Kim's blog. And listen to this week's conversation with Kim goes over what to pack while unpacking the complex emotions parents feel when their kids leave the nest. On this Dying to Ask: What to pack and what *not to pack The most overrated thing kids put on th

Want to feel less stressed? Try cleaning out your junk drawer. Decluttering may be the simplest path to destressing. Research has shown eliminating unneeded or unused things and organizing is good for focus, self esteem and mood. You can actually lower your cortisol stress hormone by purging areas in your home, especially the places where you spend the most time. Professional organizer Kim Salisbury is the owner of Home Method Co. She studied psychology in college. And, she says she uses the psychology background every day in her work helping families clear the clutter. "When you are living in spaces that are calm and organized, it brings your blood pressure down, it brings your anxiety down. It brings your stress level down," says Kim. Kim says the goal is to make your home feel like a sanctuary and it doesn't have to take a lot of time or money to make it happen. Do you geek out on all things organization? Check out Kim's blog here.  On this Dying to Ask: How Kim became a professional organizer. The mental

Need cash? Maybe you need a side hustle. Inflation has a lot of people looking for ways to bring in more money. Getting a raise in the job you have now is likely not an option. But adding a part time job might be. Small business startups aka "side hustles" tend to boom during very specific times. Tightening job markets, recessions, and inflation inspire fiscal creativity. But it's not always about the money. Sometimes people road-test a new career by starting a side hustle. Sometimes people just want something fun to do in their free time! But how do you maximize money while limiting the additional work hours? You need a plan and today's guest has some great advice. Frank Vella is the CEO of the marketing platform Constant Contact. Frank says new entrepreneurs often run into the same problem. "My advice to the small business owner is do what you do well and leverage tools to to get done what you don't have time or don't do well," says Vella. In other words, be realistic. On this Dying to Ask: How to find a si

From big law to big adventure to big-time author. Jaclyn Goldis' new book is called "The Chateau" and the thriller is topping summer beach reads lists. But Jacyln's personal story has some interesting chapters too. And it starts with quitting a prestigious and lucrative job. She quit her job in Chicago as an estate planning lawyer right to travel the world. And, she quit that job after seven and a half years, right around the time most attorneys make partner. The decision was met with a 50/50 reaction from friends and colleagues. She brought two small backpacks and the hope that she could realize her dream of life as a fiction writer. It worked. The trip unlocked creativity and fueled her soul in a way her more linear career path was not. Seven years later, she's settled in Tel Aviv, Israel, lives two blocks from the beach and is living a lifelong dream because she took a chance. "I had so many fears of how it was going to work and where it was going to end up, and how the writing thing was going to go. And y

How's that New Year's resolution going for you? Yeah, me too. Maybe we need a summer reset. It's like a resolution do-over so your future self doesn't have to be irritated by your past self and your current self can lose some anxiety. It's very meta. 80% of New Year's goals or resolutions are a memory by mid-February. Only one in 10 people will follow through for a solid year on a resolution. On this Dying to Ask: Why you might be able to blame the weather for tanking your New Year's goals 3 reasons why a summer reset makes a lot of sense How to re-frame how you look at the calendar in goal setting Need a new podcast to binge? Here's a link to Scamanda, which I mention on the show.

The "Dying to Ask" podcast is marking its 200th episode in a most luxurious way. We're talking about how simple luxuries can have a big impact on your mood and mindset. Think cheap and easy. This is not a heavy lift. My colleague and dear friend Edie Lambert joins me as co-host. Both Edie and I are huge fans of the Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast. Rubin is the best-selling author of The Happiness Project. A few months ago, she published an episode highlighting the value small luxuries have in daily life. Edie and I loved it and did a deep dive into the little things we do to make a tough day feel a little less horrid. And we each asked our Facebook communities to weigh in too. The result is this episode. And this is the "Dying to Ask" podcast's 200th episode! This show starts with a quick discussion of how podcasting has changed since our debut and answers a few questions listeners have asked about the success of "Dying to Ask." Thinking about starting a podcast? You're not alone, and the info may give yo

Go read a book! It's like a summer anthem for parents but the dividends are worth the nagging. Research continues to prove that summer reading helps kids avoid the brain drain that often occurs during summer break. Summer reading improves reading skills. Reading fluency is key to academic success in all subjects. Kids + summer reading = a winning combo. That said, it's sometimes a tough sell with kids. That's why it's critical to find something that grabs a kid's interest and reflects their individuality. Tina Ferguson is the owner of Face in a Book bookstore and my co-host on our annual "Summer Beach Reads" show. In part 2, Tina suggests titles for kids that are rich in inclusivity and imagination. Have a reluctant reader in your home? Tins suggest parents be open to graphic novels, whose popularity has exploded. "There are things you can do with illustrations along with the vocabulary in the book that really works together to get a beginning reader to really keep going and to really enjoy what they're readi

Read anything good lately? Your answer will be YES after checking out our annual summer beach reads episodes. We have so many book pics this year that we're breaking it up into two episodes. Part 1 will cover adult titles. Part 2 will cover kid picks from preschool to young adult (YA). Our literary guide is Tina Ferguson, owner of Face in a Book bookstore. This summer, Tina says romance is still hot, so to speak — but she's also seeing a trend in "feel good" books. "I think that feel-good books are trending because we just need some uplifting in our day. And so that's been a really nice thing to see as well. And then I see a lot of like speculative fiction, a little bit of sci-fi coming back, too," Tina said. Tina's picks: "When Women Were Dragons"/Kelly Barnhill "Saturday Night at the Lakeside Supper Club"/J. Ryan Stradal "Yellowface"/R. F. Kuang "The Midnight Library"/Matt Haig "You Could Make This Place Beautiful"/Maggie Smith "Happy Place"/Emily Henry "The Covenant of Water"/Abraham Verghese "The Wager"/D

How's your energy level these days? Doing a personal energy audit could be the key to preventing burnout. A personal energy audit is like a home energy audit. It's an evaluation of when and where energy is strongest and what drains it quickest. Being honest about your energy level can impact performance, outlook and overall health. Constantly pushing through a low energy level can lead to chronic stress, depression and a sense of unhappiness. On this Dying to Ask: A 3-step plan to do a personal energy audit How to stack your day based on your energy levels The impact planning around your energy level can have on your physical and mental health

Get an A+ in modern etiquette by following some do's and don't this graduation season. Diane Gottsman is back on the "Dying to Ask" podcast busting some manners myths for grads, their parents and the friends and family who want to celebrate their achievements. Diane is a modern etiquette expert and the founder of the Protocol School of Texas. She specializes in working with companies on navigating workplace etiquette. She helps executives and want-to-be execs present themselves in a way where people want to work for them and with them and that in turn is great for career advancement. She also advises college students on how to handle themselves in business situations. Graduation is the first big test of how one shares their celebrations. And, that might mean grads asking their parents to pull back a little on the celebrating! You'll find out the difference between an announcement and an invitation and when each should be sent out. When do you give a gift? What should you give? "People are moving to new apartm

From lawyer to a New York Times bestselling author. Jasmine Guillory found her "happily ever after" writing happily ever afters. Vogue Magazine calls Jasmine the "queen of the modern-day romance." Literary fairy godmother Reese Witherspoon's book club has featured her work too. Her book, "The Proposal," was the first romance ever picked for Witherspoon's club. Jasmine's books feature accomplished Black women navigating romantic complications. Jasmine is a Stanford Law grad who worked as an attorney for years before giving fiction a try as a hobby. She found the creative outlet exhilarating and soon was spending lunch breaks, evenings and weekends writing. An online novel writing challenge provided the push to finish her first book. But she didn't quit her day job. And Jasmine credits that decision for a successful professional pivot. Eventually, Jasmine secured a multi-book publishing deal and spent five weeks on the New York Times bestseller list. Eight books later, Jasmine writes the kind of books that Publ

Fine is just fine. That's the premise of a book and podcast taking aim at the self-development and wellness industries. Marketresearch.com estimates the self-improvement industry is worth more than $10 billion a year. It exploded virtually during the pandemic. Jolenta Greenberg, a comedian and self-described reality TV historian, and Kristen Meinzer, a culture critic, lived by 100 self-improvement books. They evaluated the good, the bad and the truly ridiculous. Their adventures were the basis for a podcast called "By the Book." Their big conclusion? Being fine is just fine. Greenberg and Meinzer went on to write the book "How to be Fine" and now co-host a podcast by the same name that offers advice to listeners while tackling other wellness trends. "Look at the credentials of who is giving you advice. That's my first pointer, and the first thing I sort of learned to do once I started really reading some advice that was out there. Look at the source. Is the person a doctor? Is it an honorary doctorate? Did th

Running saved Alison Mariella Desir's life. Now she wants to save running from itself. Alison's new book, "Running While Black: Finding Freedom in a Sport that Wasn't Built for Us," is a memoir. It simultaneously tells her personal story while uncovering the historic reasons why distance running is a predominantly white sport, tracing it to the origins of the running industry, racial discrimination and white supremacy. Alison decided to train for a marathon to fight depression. It worked. But, she quickly realized her experience as a Black female runner was drastically different from white women. She wrote an op-ed for Outside Magazine called "Ahmaud Arbery and Whiteness in the Running World" that went viral and ultimately led to her book. She is the founder of Harlem Run and Run 4 All Women movement to support women's reproductive rights. She's an advocate, a brand ambassador and most recently, the TV host and producer of "Out and Back with Alison Mariella Desir." Well + Good named her one of its "Changemake