One Love, One Connection, One Us/king's Philosophy/healing Paradigms

Many people enter their relationships ass backwards. We know nothing about the other person and in some cases even less about ourselves, we bring all of our baggage and demand the other person love us for who we are yet we refuse to show them who we are, We don't love others for who they are but for we need them to be and when they can't or won't be that then we don't love them anymore. We send our representative to every date, we lie about little things, we rush to have sex hoping it will change things and it does but almost never for the better. We over look red flags that this person is not right for us. We become clingy, needy then desperate.We accept too much of other people's mess, we make excuses for their lies, we forgive their shortcomings even when it hurts us. We hold on long after it's over hoping since no one has said it's over it will get better, All the while harboring the fear we will in some way be rejected if the other finds out whe we really are so we keep secrets and by into the BS that a