Save Your Sanity: Help For Toxic Relationships

SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIS NAME-CALLING EVER OK? EVEN IN AN ARGUMENT?You lose it. You're angry, out of control, and maybe, even a little out of your mind. You want to win. You want to be heard. You want to be acknowledged.You want to feel validated. So, some words you hate hearing from others come bellowing out of your mouth. Then, all those nasty names from the playground, and maybe sadly from your early life at home, force themselves upon another person.It feels good. Finally, you told the truth. Finally, you let loose.PROBLEM: What now? You're calm, and the thrill of thinking "I showed them what was up!" is gone. You know you've damaged the relationship. Now, what?Name-calling gets you a one-way ticket to regret...if you have much emotional intelligence at all, and you want the relationship to continue.If you never want to see the person again, and simply don't care, you might be fine for awhile. But, what happens when others hear