Mind Revolution

There is a presupposition in NLP that the power of our communication with others is revealed in the response that we get. Yeah, you read that right. When we speak, we tend to focus internally on what we want to say, on the message we want to deliver, on the ideas we want to share. We want to be heard.    The problem is that in focusing inwardly, we get caught up in our own thoughts and forget about those of our listeners. We’re “listening” to ourselves instead of listening to those we’re trying to communicate with. We forget that they too want to be heard and understood. Even if they’re not audibly speaking, our (at least face-to-face) listeners are sending messages through their countenance, their silence, their level of eye contact, their body language, the color and tone of their skin...  If the purpose of communication is to get all parties on the same page, learning to pay attention to these cues is vital.  It’s also important to remember that, in most cases, all parties involved want the same outcome. T