Harness Your Adhd Power

Welcome to the fortieth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the eighteenth "Ask Dr B" Show.   I’m so glad you could join me today! So, are any of today’s topics a challenge for you?  If you’re like most of the adults I know and love, then I already know that the answer is yes.  And I’m curious, if you’ve ever wondered “why” these are so challenging for you?  I used to wonder and don’t anymore, so let me share a bit about what I’ve figured out about “why” they can be so challenging First a key piece about neuroplasticity; the brain that continually changes itself.  Your brain rapidly prunes disused circuits and strengthens most-used circuits, which means that what you don’t use you do lose to a greater or lesser degree.  This is important to keep in mind.  Next, I want to speak to your self-esteem for a moment.  YOU are not a failure!  Rather, the systems have failed you.  The systems have failed to teach you everything you needed to know (meaning skills), in the ways you needed to learn, so that you could

Welcome to the thirty-ninth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power. I’m so glad you could join me today. One of the episodes you all are listening to the most is 027, figuring out where to start when so much needs your attention now. That said, I decided that it’s important for you to understand what some of the steps are you need to be taking in order to be successful in getting a handle on all the moving parts of your life that need your attention now. I talk a lot about pre-skills. What do I mean by this term? Pre-skills are whatever skills you need to learn or master in order to do what you want or need to do and you won’t be able to do so without the pre-skills. I posed a question years ago. It was, if you were able to focus on what you need to focus on, when you need to focus on it, and how you need to focus on it and complete your tasks, AND, if you were able to regulate your moods or emotions when you needed to, and how you needed to so you didn’t become overwhelmed or derailed by your emotional life, wou

Welcome to the thirty-eighth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the seventeenth "Ask Dr B" Show.   I’m so glad you could join me today. We’ve got four great topics so let’s get to it! First, since you’re on this journey with me, I want to applaud your courage straight away. Truly! It not only takes courage, but determination and commitment to yourself to get the training you need to rise up and become the person you were intended to become. And it’s worth every bit of the time, effort and energy it takes! I want you to have the life you want for yourself as much as any other person can want something for another. I feel it’s your birthright to have a happy and productive life, and just because you haven’t had it up to now doesn’t mean you don’t get to have it moving forward. And if you need some help developing your executive function skills and ADHD strategies, to give you that happier and more productive life, there’s still time to enroll in the ADDventures in Achievement program. Doors close at 11:59

Welcome to the thirty-seventh episode of Harness Your ADHD Power. I’m so glad you could join me today. Whether it’s the relationship with you, someone else or both, relationships are definitely wonderful vehicles for helping us to see ourselves more clearly and presenting us with opportunities for transformation. I’m not just talking about the communication or lifestyle challenges or differences of opinion that you have with others or even within yourself. No. I’m talking about the deeper issues of your history or baggage, the meanings you’ve given it that have shaped your personal stories, and often slammed your self-confidence and self-esteem into the ground; and your beliefs and values that have taken a hit too. And what about your intentionality in your relationships? Do you choose your relationships with negotiable and non-negotiable criteria that are well thought out, and honor your commitment to yourself, rather than impulsively jumping into relationships that don’t match your criteria, because you are

Welcome to the thirty-sixth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the sixteenth "Ask Dr B" Show.   I’m so glad you could join me today.  We’ve got a lot to cover today, so let’s get to it. I’ve been pretty hyperfocused lately on Executive Function overall and specifically the skills that we need to develop for a more successful adult life, especially if we didn’t develop them starting back in childhood.  So whether you’ve mastered them all (which probably isn’t true if you’re listening to my podcast show) or will be learning them now, the point is, you need to learn them because they’re the foundational skills that we build a successful adult life on; with greater ability to successfully navigate the responsibilities that comes with adulthood.  No lie here! So today’s episode is about the high cost of not knowing about executive function skills and the questions I’ve been getting recently about this topic: what is it, how come no one told me about it when I got my diagnosis of ADHD, and how come nobody told

Welcome to the thirty-fifth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power. I’m so glad you could join me today. Throughout my 30+ years of working with adults with ADHD, Executive Function deficits, depression, anxiety, addictions, and many other co-occurring challenges, I’ve noticed a theme that bears talking about today. And that is the abundance of “symptoms” that often present themselves to us, and are basically saying, “Hey you! There are things you need to pay attention to and take care of here.” And, if we are fortunate enough to both hear and understand the messages of those “symptoms,” and actually take action to search out what the underlying issues are, and follow through on resolving them, we can put an end to a lot of the suffering that we live with. Difficulties and challenges are part of life; ongoing suffering involves your mind and is optional. So you might be wondering what all of that has to do with the topics abundant criticism and scarcity of kind words. I’ll be getting there, so stay with me on thi

Welcome to the thirty-fourth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the fifteenth "Ask Dr B" Show.   I’m so glad you could join me today for my podcast show. We’ve got a tighter format, great topics and clear steps to take starting today, so let’s get to it. I’m going to be addressing three inter-related topics today to help you see the path from fuzzy to focused on becoming the successful adult living with ADHD you deserve to be. It’s definitely a journey, one that’s unique for each person. And if you’re on this journey, I applaud you for your courage straight away. Truly! It definitely takes courage and a lot of what I’m going to be talking about today to rise up and become the person you were intended to become. And it’s worth every bit of the time, effort and energy it takes! I want you to have the life you want for yourself as much as any other person can want something for another. I feel it’s your birthright to have a good life and to be happy, and just because you didn’t have that in the first half o

Welcome to the thirty-third episode of Harness Your ADHD Power. I'm so glad you could join me for today’s podcast episode.  If you’ve been trying to solve your procrastination challenges forever, without much success, perhaps it’s because procrastination is a “behavioral symptom” and not the real problem.  “Behavioral symptoms” are great because they tell us that something is wrong.  It’s just that we then need to look beyond them, if we’re going to solve the underlying issues that are presenting us with those “behavioral symptoms.” It’s kind of like having a fever (the symptom) when the underlying issue is a raging infection.  I hope you’d be treating the raging infection and not just take something for the fever. I want to introduce you to Professor Alfred Bandura, if you aren’t familiar with his name or his work.  Back in 1997 he said that self-efficacy is different than confidence.  Confidence is this vague term that refers to your “strength of belief,” but it doesn’t necessarily say where your certainty

Welcome to the thirty-second episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the thirteenth "Ask Dr B" Show.   I’m so glad you could join me today for my podcast show. We’ve got a tighter format, hot topics and clear steps to take starting today, so let’s get to it. So many of the adults I work with or dialogue with have been diagnosed later in life. There are many reasons for this and it’s not the end of the world; far from it - it’s the beginning of your new life. Borrowing a phrase from the Foreword to the First Edition of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous - “recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body” is what comes to mind when I think of ADHD and Executive Function Deficits. Many adults have lived or continue to live in a seemingly hopeless state. Many haven’t received a diagnosis yet or any truly useful help, and many feel hopeless; even suicidal at times. I’ve even sat with pre-teens who were feeling so hopeless that they couldn’t focus or study or keep up with their assignments and had all

Welcome to the thirty-first episode of Harness Your ADHD Power. I'm so glad you could join me for today’s podcast episode. It’s time for another change to the format. The episodes have been getting a bit long, so I’m moving back to the sweet spot of roughly 30 minutes. That means cutting out some of the repetitive content, in order to keep the episodes focused on great content, stories, action steps and a favorite quote of mine. I appreciate all your suggestions and input so I can consider everything and provide you with the best of me in ways that are best for you too. Just because you can speak, doesn’t mean you can communicate skillfully or say what you intend to convey. Just because you know the words doesn’t mean that you are using them skillfully. Just because you get everything out that you want to say, doesn’t mean it is received as you intended. And, if you have beliefs about not wanting to hurt anyone’s feelings, then you’ve already set yourself up to not say what’s on your mind because you’ll be fo

Welcome to the thirtieth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the thirteenth "Ask Dr B" Show.   I’m so glad you could join me today. I get SO excited to create episodes that you my listeners ask for. You send me questions or issues that you are struggling with and ask for insights and solutions, which results in inspiration and another great episode. You have no idea how happy that makes me; or maybe you do. Based on Monday’s episode 029, I hope you all get just how important it is that we develop executive function skills; just not something we should skip over or take lightly. If you haven’t listened to that episode yet, I recommend you do so you’ll understand what I mean. There’s no short cut here. These skills are the pre-requisites to the more advanced skills we need to learn and master in adulthood; and we can’t jump to advanced skills without the basic foundational ones in place. Correction…we can jump there, but we can’t stay there because we don’t have what is needed to succeed. And what about you

Welcome to the twenty-ninth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast by Dr B that explores the many facets of adult ADHD life and how we can learn to become unstoppable.  In this episode, Dr B explores our assumptions, expectations, shame and guilt as it relates to adult life with ADHD and helps you to move past it to a new found freedom.  Be sure to subscribe to this podcast so you receive each new episode as soon as it's released, as well as "special episodes" with guests.

Welcome to the twenty-eighth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast by Dr B that explores the many facets of adult ADHD life and how we can learn to become unstoppable.  In this episode, Dr B answers the questions you have about issues or challenges you experience as an adult living with ADHD, and offers you hope.  Be sure to subscribe so you receive each new episode as soon as it's released, as well as "special episodes" with guests.

Welcome to the twenty-seventh episode of Harness Your ADHD Power with Dr B.  In today's episode I'm going to be taking a deeper look at Figuring Out Where To Start When So Much Needs Your Attention NOW and help you to find your starting point.  Yes, there will be a starting point for each of you once you get clear on where you really are starting from in your life currently. And your starting point may not be where you said it was or wish it were; but it will truly be your starting point.  Skipping over important pieces and trying to step up sooner than is true for you will not serve you and will only further sabotage your efforts for a better life.  You're just going to have to start where you are.  Really, where else can you start other than there?  Be sure to subscribe so you receive each new episode as soon as it's released.

Welcome to the twenty-sixth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast by Dr B that explores the many facets of adult ADHD life and how we can learn to become unstoppable.  In this episode, Dr B answers the questions you have about issues or challenges you experience as an adult living with ADHD, and offers you hope.  Be sure to subscribe so you receive each new episode as soon as it's released, as well as "special episodes" with guests.

Welcome to the twenty-fifth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast by Dr B that explores the many facets of adult ADHD life and how we can learn to become unstoppable.  In this episode, Dr B takes a deeper look at moving beyond the damaging years of undiagnosed ADHD and what you can do now to turn things around for yourself and claim a more successful life.  Be sure to subscribe so you receive each new episode as soon as it's released, as well as "special episodes" with guests.

Welcome to the twenty-fourth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast by Dr B that explores the many facets of adult ADHD life and how we can learn to become unstoppable.  In this episode, Dr B answers the questions you have about issues or challenges you experience as an adult living with ADHD, and offers you hope.  Be sure to subscribe so you receive each new episode as soon as it's released, as well as "special episodes" with guests.

Welcome to the twenty-third episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast by Dr B that explores the many facets of adult ADHD life and how we can learn to become unstoppable.  In this episode, Dr B talks about WHY not knowing about your ADHD can lead you to make very damaging meanings out of your life events and have you feeling like a horrible person, and what you can do about that to turn it around and claim a more successful life for yourself.  Be sure to subscribe to this podcast show so you don't miss any episodes!!  Quick little survey: CLICK HERE

Welcome to the twenty-second episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast by Dr B that explores the many facets of adult ADHD life and how we can learn to become unstoppable.  In this episode, Dr B answers the questions you have about issues or challenges you experience as an adult living with ADHD, and offers you hope.  If you have questions, head over to my website and ask!!  Be sure to subscribe to this podcast show so that the newest episodes arrive in your feed right when they are released, as well as any "special episodes" with guests.  And if you'd like to make your struggles or frustrations known to me, go to:  https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/CJVY372

Welcome to the twenty-first episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast by Dr B that explores the many facets of adult ADHD life and how we can learn to become unstoppable.  In this episode, Dr B talks about WHY not completing tasks can be so damaging to your mindset and quality of life, and what you can do about it.  Be sure to subscribe to this podcast so you receive every new episode just as soon as it's released, plus any "extra" special episodes with guests.  Survey:  https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/BDGTHT8