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"The best indicator of a successful tomorrow is having a successful day today, that's the only thing." - James Altucher The Cheat Sheet: Why starting a business is better than going to college. Anyone can take the bar exam in California: true or false? US economics in 3 minutes. Where is the money in today's economy and is there enough? James' "Choose Yourself Message": what it is, how and why to apply it to your life. The story of how he thwarted a $30 million financial fraud. And so much more... Could you get more education from starting and failing at a business than from going to college? If someone said to you sending an 18 year old to college is like sending an 18 year old to Vietnam, would you agree? That's James Altucher believes and he's our guest for episode 300. Having founded over 20 companies along with creating and publishing 11 books, James Altucher knows a few things about how the world works and he doesn't see the necessity of college for most people. Today James and I talk about alternativ

"I can't control what happens outside of me, but I can control what happens on the inside." -Ted Ryce The Cheat Sheet: What was it like to see his brother's murderer executed? Ted's warrior mindset and how it has served him. The principles of resilience. Why aerobics and yoga can be beneficial, even to men. What is stress inoculation and why is important? And so much more... Today it's bordering on trendy to blame your early childhood for your present day screw-ups. For some, their dad wasn't around enough or their mom didn't hug them enough. But there are those people who truly experienced harrowing childhoods, the kind that could (and by all accounts should) - really mess you up into a non-functional human being. And yet there are stories of triumph from those who rise above to lead happy, healthy and impactful lives. Such is the case for our guest on episode 299, Ted Ryce, fitness expert and martial arts competitor. In this show, Ted talks candidly and powerfully about the impact of the kidnapping and mu

"It's never going to be perfect, I'm never going to have all the answers and I don't want all the answers because that would be boring!" - Jesse Elder The Cheat Sheet: How he fought and won a dojo? The acid test: how to use it for success in any area of your life. His merit-based approach to dating. What is a need-free connection and how can you cultivate it? Money makes us ___. Jesse fills in the blank. And so much more! What can we learn from a "Fight Club"esque fighter/former bouncer turned martial arts school owner turned multi-million dollar businessman about self-mastery? Plenty. Jesse Elder is a present day successful entrepreneur and business man who started his career in the underground bar fight scene and learned some startling self-mastery lessons along the way. He joins The Art of Charm to share his lessons, his keen insights and authentic views on life, love and business. More About This Show: Jesse's path began like it does for many people: he took martial arts as a kid. He loved it and by the

"The definition I use for networking is anything that increases the value of your network and/or the value you contribute to it. " - Derek Coburn The Cheat Sheet: Who you'll really meet at big networking events. Why successful networking is a lot like successful dating. What to ask yourself before you make an email introduction. Permission marketing: what is it, why you should use it and how. How to put together your own 20-25 person networking group. And so much more! Is networking a thing of the past? Or is there a new 3.0 version we can put into practice to make a difference in the lives of everyone in our circles? Derek Coburn is a master networker and author of Networking Is Not Working. He believes there is a better, natural way to fulfill the art of networking. He joins us for episode 296 to talk about what works, what doesn't work and how successful people network differently than the typical "big event" style. More About This Show: The concept behind networking has evolved and through over the deca

"Most people feel under-appreciated so if you want to make huge jumps up the career ladder, start treating other people as if you own the company.. " - John Ruhlin If you've ever been that guy who gave his wife or significant other a vacuum cleaner for your anniversary - and you thought it was a great present - than this episode is for you. John Rulin, our guest for show 294, has made a success out of understanding the art of appreciation and gift giving. In this episode, John talks to us about the secret behind his still-unbroken record as Cutco's top salesman ever, how to be an amazing gift giver and how gifting can open doors in business and personal relationships, how to apply gifting in business, your own relationships and marriage, how John nearly died proposing to his wife and how to cultivate thoughtfulness and creativity in the gifting process. More About This Show: John's career really began with the company Cutco. For those of you who haven't heard of this company, it's a cutlery company that has t

"When I started seeing myself as I actually am and allowing other people to see that too, I started feeling more powerful. " - Michael Port Can acting teach us more about life, being human and getting real with each other? Indeed it can according to our guest for show 293, Michael Port. Michael has been on such notable TV shows and films as Sex and The City, Law & Order, Third Watch and The Pelican Brief. He's a highly sought after keynote speaker and New York Times best-selling author of several books, including Book Yourself Solid. Today he's taking what he learned from his television and movie days and applying it to the written word and to the speaking stage and he joins us to share all that and more on this edition of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: By most accounts, Michael achieved success in his acting career: he was being cast on multiple top TV shows and landing roles in hit movies. But it wasn't working for him, and he got out of the "biz". Looking back on it now, he says he was impatient a

"The tools and skills you need to protect yourself are things you come equipped with." - Tony Blauer If it came down to it, could you defend yourself or a loved one in a street fight? Would martial arts save the day? Probably not says our guest for episode 292, Tony Blauer. Tony is a self-defense expert and options facilitator who teaches people (from law enforcement to civilians) how to defend themselves in an ambush scenario, like being held up at an ATM or a thief in your house. And he teaches people without using any martial arts. In this show he talks about simple ways to pay attention to your intuition, read an attacker's intention and get yourself out of trouble…and plenty more. More About This Show: I originally met Tony a few years ago when I took his class while at a Counter-Terrorism Summit; it was awesome. Tony is the head of Blauer Tactical Systems (TBS), a leading consulting company that specializes in the research and development of close quarter tactics & scenario-based training. As the leader

"What makes homo sapiens the dominant force on the planet for the last 150,000 years is the brain." - Tai Lopez What would you call a man who spent his teenage years in a mobile home park, lived with the Amish for 2.5 years as an experiment, was a professional tango dancer, dated a Brazilian model, was a self-made millionaire in his 20s, has authored several books and today attends Warren Buffet's annual Berkshire meeting? You'd call him Tai Lopez. An aspiring Renaissance Man, Tai has excelled at a variety of endeavors and has learned as much as possible along the way. In this episode we talk about a host of topics including how to earn and deserve what you really want in life, why the 4 Hour Work Week is a myth that won't make you happy, why you should go straight to the top when seeking counsel and why the more you learn, the more you'll earn...and loads of other valuable content. More About This Show: Tai is clearly a man with a passion and zest for living. He has what most of us would consider the "good l

"Anybody can accomplish amazing things if they reflect on what they value and then fully commit to it." -Dr. Heidi Reeder What does commitment really mean? Is it just a matter of will power and determination, or is there more to it than that? Joining The Art of Charm to answer all these questions and more is Dr. Heidi Reeder. In episode 290, Dr. Heidi provides the science and the data behind the most pressing commitment quandaries in business, relationships and life in general. More About This Show: What exactly is commitment? Dr. Heidi, who has written for "Psychology Today" and appeared on "The Today Show", defines commitment as being psychologically attached to something and intending to stick with it. So it's a longer term process and perspective than determination and will power. Dr. Heidi would know, her career focus is taking rigorous social science research and finding the application for it, such as her book "Commit to Win" and the 40 years of research it's based on. In this episode, she shares evide

"Every communication is two conversations: the content and the body language. When the two are aligned, you can be successful." - Nick Morgan Did you ever do something and then think, why the heck did I just do that? Our guest for episode 288, Dr. Nick Morgan, can shed some light on that for you! He says there are two parts of every communication, and he explains what they are in this episode. Nick is the author of "Power Cues", he's also a keynote speaker and one of the top communication theorists. Today we talk about the two parts of every communication, as well as how our unconscious determines most of our communication, how we can influence the emotions of others by cultivating those emotions within ourselves, the primal power of vocal tonality and how to focus on our own emotional power in crucial moments to leverage it for success. HATE CLOTHES SHOPPING? VISIT BOMBFELL TO NEVER DO IT AGAIN. AND SUPPORT THE SHOW More About This Show: Nick's early career began in the academic world. He was a professor of

"It is our emotional experience that makes the difference in how we're learning." - Hunter Maats Can intelligence and mastery be learned or are we all innately good at some things and terrible at others? Is there really a "math" gene or can anyone, with enough practice, become great at Algebra? Hunter Maats, our guest for episode 287, says if you've learned one thing in your life, you can learn anything. And he is here to share the science that supports this belief. More About This Show: Hunter Maats, founder of Straight A Conspiracy and Harvard graduate, joins the Art of Charm to talk about numerous aspects of how and why we learn. To name just a few topics, we discuss the impact emotions have on our learning experience, the fallacy of genes giving us certain traits and not others, what the worst idea ever is and why you should forget it immediately, the danger of the 10,000-hour rule, and automaticity. On the point of emotions impacting our learning experiences, Hunter says science is now showing us that at

"When your sleep is on point, everything you're doing is going to get better." -Shawn Stevenson Sleep: It's commonly accepted that we should sleep 8 hours a night. But is that really true? Does the quantity of sleep we're getting matter or is this a case of quality over quantity? And what does sleep do for us anyway, is it that important? Shawn Stevenson, our guest for episode 286, says it definitely matters. His philosophy is that good sleep is one of the most important things we can do to get healthy and stay that way. Today we talk about why sleep matters, the impact lack of sleep has on our health and how an orgasm before bed helps us all sleep better! MORE ABOUT THIS SHOW: At the young age of 20, Shawn was diagnosed he had degenerative disc disease at 20: had the spine of an 80 year old. He saw 5 doctors and they all said it was incurable, there was nothing they could do. He lived with this diagnosis for 2.5 years, asking "why me" and questions of that nature. And then he decided to get well. With that d

"Paradoxes are powerful. The main paradox when it comes to being charismatic that you want to create, is to create the paradox of strength & warmth ." -Isaiah HankelMost people believe charisma is something you’ve either got or you don’t - that you’re somehow born with it. Not so according to our guest for episode 284.Dr. Isaiah Hankel is an author, biotech consultant and successful owner of three multi-national businesses. He’s worked with clients such as Amgen, Pfizer and Roche. And he’s presented at such esteemed academic institutions as Harvard, Stanford, Oxford, Cambridge and The Curie Institute.MORE ABOUT THIS SHOW:Isaiah Hankel has a Ph.D. in Anatomy and Cell Biology but at one point he was a sheep farmer! He was also diagnosed with ADD and ADHD and he struggled through much of his academic career. It was that struggle which helped him understand how to focus in a way that allows him to create dozens of entrepreneurial endeavors, build thriving relationships and travel the world as a speaker and author

"Have things come to you at the time that you can best deal with them." Ari Meisel What would you do if you were given a diagnosis and put on 16 pills a day? Would you accept your fate or would you biohack your way to health and wellness?Ari Meisel chose the latter and he spends time talking with us about how he cured his Crohn’s. He also shares how that process led to his “Less Doing” brand, which is devoted to helping men do less and live more through optimization, outsourcing and automation.MORE ABOUT THIS SHOW:Ari’s journey began at the age of 20. He had the brilliant idea to renovate some old cigar factories into lofts and he set about doing so. What he had expected to take six months, turned into three years and over $3 million in debt. He spent those three years learning every construction trade he could and invested every bit of himself in that development.And in the process, he destroyed his body. He was smoking a pack of cigarettes a day, drinking every night and eating fast food a few times a day.

When you understand these hormonal changes, it creates grace in a relationship. - Dr. Sara Gottfried Are you tired of not knowing how to cope with your woman's hormonal cycles? Of not knowing when she'll go from zero to crazy in .002 seconds? And what about your own hormones - can you manage them yourself so that you don't feel tired and achy when you get up in the morning and grumpy when you come home at the end of the day? Our guest for today's show says yes to all of those questions. Dr. Sara Gottfried, author of The Hormone Cure, is a Harvard-trained medical doctor, wife, mother and yogini. And she's here to give us the scoop on male and female hormones. MORE ABOUT THIS SHOW: Dr. Sara is, as she puts it, board-certified in everything that can go wrong with a woman's body. She knows firsthand what it's like when hormones go haywire and it was her own personal experience that led her into deeper discovery on the topic. After sorting out her own hormonal imbalances, Dr. Sara decided to specialize in helping

Imagine what you could do if you could always know what someone else was really thinking - no matter what they were saying to you. How would that change your work life, your life at home and your relationships? Here to help you do just that is Vanessa Van Edwards of the Science of People, a human behavior research lab. She's joins the Art of Charm podcast to give us the inside scoop on human behavior, micro-expressions, being a human lie detector and how to read people like a book. MORE ABOUT THIS SHOW: Vanessa Van Edwards has long been fascinated by people's behaviors. In fact, she thought she would work for the CIA or the Secret Service, until she realized that would mean interrogating people. Instead she opted to combine her interest in people with self-help for the business world, which eventually led to her joining the Science of People. The work she and her colleagues do there has been recognized around the world and has been featured on such notable media outlets as Fast Company, Forbes and NPR Busines

"Nobody ever got rich working for a living." -Grandpa TipsIf the 'World's Most Interesting Man' were a dad, he'd be Charlie Tips. Charlie gives parenting and life advice to those of us shooting for the stars, including:-How to educate your kids to be 'billionaires'-Why public schools actually teach poor mindsets inadvertently-How a 12 year old kid created his own high school packed with world-travel and won two Emmys by age 30-Quora takeaways from article: no prep schools, teach generosity, love of work, and how to be worthy of wealth-How trading time for money is a losing battle, and how a total schlub learned the skills and mindset of capitalism and put it into actionHere's the original answer on Quora You'll also like:-The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTune

"If you don't like the way the world is, you change it. You have an obligation to change it. You just do it one step at a time." -Marian Wright Edelman James Swanwick of Alpha Male Club swings by to discuss: -Why fear of success is just as real as fear of failure -Bluffing his way onto ESPN and into a job as a SportsCenter anchor -How to formulate a plan and take action despite your fear ("feel the fear and do it anyway") -Recognizing sticking points (fear) and moving forward -Why failure is an integral part of success How he stopped drinking and you can too (if you decide to do it, that is!) You'll also like: The Art of Charm Toolbox Best of The Art of Charm Podcast   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordanh@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888

“You cannot run away from weakness; you must some time fight it out or perish; and if that be so, why not now, and where you stand?”—Robert Louis Stevenson We've all heard of 'flow'. That mysterious in-the-zone state that athletes, performers and other professionals consummate in their craft seem to attain when they're really crushing it. But what is it and how do we get there deliberately, calling forth flow when we need (or want) it?We'll cover that and more in this episode of The Art of Charm Podcast with Steven Kotler, including:-The flow genome project (can we ENGINEER flow?)-What is FLOW?-What happens in your brain during flow?-How do we trigger flow and harness it for ourselves?-How flow saved Steven’s life and helped him recover from Lyme disease-The flow cycle which is a roadmap for flow as well as practical things we can do and work on to make this cycle a reality for us-More bullet points, likely all including the word 'flow' at some point ;)You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art

"Where you are is a result of who you were, but where you go depends entirely on who you choose to be." Hal Elrod died and came back to life. But, he didn't just want ANY old life...In this episode, we'll talk about:-How Hal went from dead for 6 minutes to ultra-marathoner to RAPPER to speaker and trainer (and yes, we have Hal freestyle the rap -don't worry)-How we cause our own emotional pain (the gap between what we wish were true and what is, and how much we wish we could change it)-Remaining positive even in the face of death and disability-Why an acute case of impostor syndrome in your career can be worse than death-The best way to structure your morning for productivity, happiness and your best shot at getting in the zone (hint: it’s not coffee and it’s not just exercise)You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there