Sexual Addiction:strength/hope/recovery

This is a repplay where Carol talks about the criteria for sex addiction

Carol the Coach is going to be interviewing Shane Adamson who will be discussing understanding and healing attachment wounds of loss, betrayal and abandonment and neglect.  He has a desire to start a podcast that will feature complex problems and be inspired by love stories.  As a professional counselor over 25 years, Shane observes what helps and what hurts individuals, marriages and families.  Shane combines clinical experiences and formal training to identify quality content for the listener.  The greatest happiness life has to offer most often comes through connected and loving relationships. The podcast features authors and experts as well as  everyday heroes who have something helpful and inspiring to share about strengthening loving relationships.  Episodes will inspire the listener to do hard things as well as find better ways to live, love and parent.  He explains, "This is a place we get real, tell stories, and are reminded of things that matter most. You, Your Marriage, and Your family has seeds of

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Gary and Donna who support RCA a 12 Step Group for Couples in recovery. Find out how you can access this incredible 12 Step format for support!

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Michele Saffier who will be speaking about her work with partners struggling with betrayal trauma.  Discovery forces partners into an existential crisis of self. The choice they are faced with has very little to do with external decisions about their life– divorce, reconciliation, therapy, polygraphs and disclosure, why the betrayer did what they did, etc. There are two paths ahead. The must choose one.                                  The path on the left is the relationship healing journey – individual therapy, partners group, S-Anon, marital therapy, accountability, etc. This path manages the acute crisis yet wellness still depends largley on the “we” and not the “I”.  The path on the right far more difficult; it is a Heroes’ Journey.  They will battle two-headed dragons, angry monsters and, the scariest monster of all, their own dark side (shadow self).  If they hang on for dear life and stay on their journey, they will emerge, like the Phoenix rises from the ashes, tr

Money issues and financial distress is all a part of the sexual addiction cycle. Listen as renowned "sex addiction's expert" Debra Kaplan talks about her new audio book which will help to unravel the damage that sexual addiction has contributed towards in the relationship. Debra Kaplan, who wrote For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual and Financial Betrayal in Relationships  turns a provocative, literary lens on the world of sex, money and relational power. For over a decade, Ms. Kaplan has been a licensed psychotherapist treating problem related to sex addiction, money and relationships. Join us for a provocative exploration into relationships about sex, money and power.  

Today, Carol the Coach interviews Gary Owens who is the male spouse of a female sex addict. He has written a book titled The Betrayed Husband’s Survival Guide as a way to tell his story and to help other men who find themselves in the battle of their lives. Being the partner of an addict is difficult, especially in the early days of recovery. And being a man whose wife betrayed him can be a blow to ones masculinity. Gary shares some of the things which have helped him find the road to his own ongoing recovery of self.

Sex addiction is a common occurance in the military, Lauren Rich explains, "ography is a huge problem. Excluding military sexual assault in this discussion ography and infidelity are an infinite battle. You have to remember that we’re talking majority men, minority women and that they are young, testosterone filled males who look to ography as a way to escape, feel good, and meet sexual needs. There’s little to no shame of doing this while enlisted, when they discharge and get married is when it can become an issue. Many stop use by this time but others struggle greatly." Today, she will explain what resources are available to the men who are serving our country.  

It is so important to recognize how the proper sleep can help sex addicts with thier urges, cravings and triggers. And for the partner, the proper sllep insures more stress management including less triggers and more emotional regulation.Listen as sleep specialist Laura Childers reminds us how important sleep really in the management of trauma and good mental health.

Betrayal Trauma can feel different for male partners Their greatest wounding is to believe that nothing that they experienced with their significant other was real. They experience an out-of-the-blue grief response to the sudden loss of what they thought was their life and they have nowhere to turn because that there are very few resources for male partners. Our guest today, Sibylle Georgianna has written a book for male partners to offer that support and she wants male partners to know that at some point they need to mourn the relationship they thought they had. She knows that reactions such as anger, sadness, numbness or craving to go out and cheat yourself show the humongous loss. The betrayal wound causes you to no longer trust your significant other and yourself. In her book she says: "You have many questions: Was my relationship with the one who betrayed me an illusion? What’s my sense of reality that I did not see the dual life of the one who betrayed me sooner? How could I have entrusted myself and my

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Latina Griffin, LCSW, CCTP, CCPS about the benefits of working collaboratively with  professionals who are skilled at understanding sex addiction. She encourages clients to find clinics who can offer partner sensitive services and also have professionals who who can provide the needed umbrella of services to assist sex addicts in their healing and restore the coupleship. She has discovered there is significant benefit to her clients individually as well as healing in the relationship to work with a CSAT. She wants to educate our listeners as to the many advantages to to having an area or a clinic who can work together for the sake of the client.      

We have really seen the trials and tribulations that first responders experience due to the pandemic. Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Gina Dunckel who specializes in trauma and knows firsthand how trauma can effect First Responders. We will be discussing First Responders, the unique culture they bring to therapy, and how to understand the differences of sexual addictions and sexual issues in their line of work.  We will also talk about how to deal with unique issues such as critical incidents, pandemic, working with affair partner that is on the job, and interagency roles.  We will also address resources for therapists to increase their knowledge base about First Responders.  

TodayHeather Pincelli and I will be talking about THRIVING after infidelity. Heather is a mental health counselor and coach who went through betrayal and decided to specialize in it to give partners the care that they deserve.  She  realized how much our mental health counselors and life coaches were not properly trained to hold space for and help with repair and moving forward after infidelity on the heels of her own marriage becoming shattered by the pains of infidelity. She explains that her then spouse had moved us 1500 miles away, uprooted us from our support, my job etc to what we were being told was a job he HAD TO TAKE. It turns out it was to move us to the town his mistress's plural yes plural-- lived in. I caught the affairs shortly after moving there. She did what so many do and immediately found a therapist and while paying this therapist $350 an hour he would nod his head and say to me oh this sounds so painful. Heather realized that his well intentioned empathy was not good enough and it motivat

Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Crystal Whitlow, who is a facilitator for training clinicians with EMDR. She will be talking about EMDR protocols around EMDR and sex addiction. Addiction protocols are different that other protocols around trauma although many addicts have reenacted their trauma with sexually addictive maladaptive patterns. Listen as she talks about the protocols that can make a difference

I recentlyYou have heard me say that the 12 Step Program could help anyone be a better person. Well now there is a book that explains how everyone should ascribe to the 12 Step Process! Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Kristin Snowden co-authored  with Scott Brassart called Life Anonymous: 12 Steps to Heal and Transform Your Life.  It was written to help non-addicts (and addicts) understand and apply 12 step concepts to their own lives to help them navigate personal and relational crises.  It incorporates various therapeutic tools and exercises, as well.  It can also be a helpful tool for those who love/are in a relationship with addicts and want to better understand what recovery can look like (meetings, working steps, building relationships).  The book weaves in personal stories of how those who don’t identify as addicts can apply the 12-Step model to their lives.  Kristin references her years of running a mens drug and sex addiction program, helping clients gain sobriety through a recovery progr

Tonight, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Peter Cooper who will be discussing a book Ithat he is currently writing that is tentatively titled "The Flow of Self and Sexuality", that includes and opens with a short autobiographical section as well as tying the elements of nature (earth, air, fire, water and void) into our own life and connecting with them to better understand our own sexuality as well as all aspects to our lives; including the self. Additionally, tying the elements in my book to self-esteem and how to achieve self-esteem through thought patterns, behaviors and emotional reactions both in intimate relationships and in our general day to day lives. This conversation will help you look at your own life, sexuality and self-esteem and access resources to help you improve your life.

Tonight, Carol interviews Kelly Ibarra, who has writtten a memoir about rebuilding and forgiveness after complex sexual betrayal.that both educates the reader about partner betrayal and sexual addiction and shares the process of forgiveness. Jenna Riemersma describes the book by saying, “Kelly shares a raw and personal window into her experience of betrayal and her struggle with the effects of trauma, while also offering hope and a path forward. Her narrative is punctuated with recommendations from best clinical practices that offer the reader a guide to transformation and healing.” It is rare to get this type of message about grace, forgiveness and redemption.

Tonight, Carol the Coach, is interviewing Carrie Ishee who wrote a poignant memoir which chronicles the traumatic psychological abduction and sexual exploitation of depressed college student Carrie Tansey at the hands of her psychiatrist, Dr. Anthony Romano–thirty-one years her senior. For three years, their secret “affair” was carefully calculated, and controlled by Romano, as Carrie’s mental and emotional health continued to deteriorate, bringing her closer and closer to the edge. Their dual-relationship finally came to light when Carrie’s suicide attempts landed her in a world-renowned psychiatric hospital. Gradually, she began to reclaim her power, reported Romano to the state licensing board, successfully sued him for malpractice, and testified before the state legislature to bring awareness to such abuses. Listen as she shares how she shifted out of victimization into empowerment and what you can do to heal your own dealings with exploitation.

Is forgiveness necessary for healing from sexual addiction? Well the truth is that it is not mandatroy to forgive the person or the acting out but if you choose to forgive you will find tonight's show illuminating as we talk to Sara Schulting-Krantz, who believes that everyone has the capacity to forgive and she will share the steps that come straight from her book, Walk Through This and Travel the Road to Forgiveness.

Tonight, Carol the Coach interviews David Essel, who helps addicts look at how trauma reenactment from childhood shows up as sexual addiction in the present until you deal with the past. Listen, as he shares the path that can give great insight into true recovery.

Mindfulness can be the antidotee for a sexually addicted mind and tonight Darrin Ford tells us how he found recovery and how he is training professionals to help their clients who don't seem able to find recovery through compassion and mindfulness based addiction therapy.