Personal Development Unplugged

Don't Let Negative Events Define You Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that things, events just happen and that event is not you - it's just happening. Unless we say things like This always happens to me, Why is this ALWAYS happening to me, and by asking these 'bonky' questions these events and as many similar events your unconscious mind can string together and thereby define you. UNLESS....... You define the situation and state in the positive GOOD I get to experience this and grow, use the event to grow and learn. Let me share some better questions that get you to re-frame and get you to succeed in whatever is happening in your life. All this in a 5-Minute Quickie podcast episode making life better. Instead of Sh*t happens let SHIFT happen. Please share, here's the link: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-354-defining-moments-dont-let-negative-events-define-you/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed

The Antidote-Making Goals Happen When you do this they will So we're far enough away from the failure of the dreaded NYR's, the BS and emotions that surround them. As you can see I'm not such a big fan of doing stuff that just doesn't work on so many levels. Why? Because there are a few simple ways to achieve what you want and dream of - period. All you have to do is do the work, that's not to say it doesn't take effort, but the return on your effort is tremendous especially when you start from a motivated feeling of confidence that what I share creates in you. The confidence of knowing what you want with the expectation of success every step of the way. This turned out to be so much more than I expected and force me to go into so much I have had to split this into two parts (part 2 next week).  We'll work through this together so have something to write on and set your intention on learning and creating the ways to achieve anything now and whenever you choose to in the future as well. This is a system, a pro

The Trick To Knowing Someone Deeper Would it be, is it important to you to understand people better, get a deeper rapport, connect at a level that creates magic in relationships in your personal  AND professional life? How would knowing and having this understanding, this connection with the people in all areas of your life affect your success in those areas? And guess what? you don't have to be with them to start. Would that be important or of value? You Betcha'!! You can even get a glimpse of what's going on in that other person's mind and what they're feeling. Let me share with you some true examples of this and what most don't tell you the HOW TO do it. When you learn this it will make relationships, both personal and professional, so much richer. Oh it's not a trick, not a hack, by the way (sorry) It's simply a lovely process and I do love this process from NLP (perceptional positions) but don't let that stop you :O) that's just for my therapy friends. Please come with me and press play >>>>>>> and share

Creating A Quiet Place Where we can.............. This Five-minute Quickie is about me taking you in your mind to my Quiet Place where I would leave the busy noise and think, relax, regroup, work out 'Stuff' and even sometimes just talk with someone one to one. As long as you have nothing that needs your attention and you could maybe close your eyes Then come with me And when you do you can realize you either have, can have, or can create one in your mind and simply enjoy the pleasure. I really hope you enjoy it, you never know I might even make a longer hypnosis track but you'll have to ask for that. Please share this short episode and tell others of the longer podcast episodes. Here's the link to this one to share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-353-creating-a-quiet-place/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelop

5 Steps to Turning Your Dreams Into Reality They're Simple and they Just Work We all have dreams and goals that if we were to achieve them then WOW!!!!! Yet all too often we don't and it's 'I wish I'd' or 'If only I'd' So let's go through the steps that will produce the WOW!!!! and turn your dreams into reality. In this episode, I will guide you through each step and keep it simple, unlike others, so you can work along with me and when you do the magic begins to happen. That magic is not only do you begin to see and experience results you also find that this way becomes a habit that generalizes into other areas of your life. I could explain all the steps here but that would defeat the object of being a podcast so.................. You're going to have to PRESS PLAY >>>>> and bring your imagination with you. And what the cost, the payment required to listen What!!!! It's not FREE?????? No, but all you have to do is pay it forward and share this episode - Here's the link: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.c

Do Yourself a Favor Do you want to know a ridiculously easy peasy way of changing how you feel in a moment? We all have times when things were a little stale, just not feeling it or I'm just out of sorts and it's affecting what I am doing or stopping what I'm about to start. What about those times when we're in the middle of something and I've lost the will. So welcome to the process I've called "Stop and Go!" To find out what it's all about you're going to have to press play and listen then do what you hear. Oh! nearly forgot I have a mini Ah-Ha moment during the recording While you're at it pay it forward and share this- here's the link: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-352-do-yourself-a-favour/ Boom! OBTW -  This Just Works!!!! Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to t

So Why Not Me? I'll Tell You Why Change the Question - Change Your Life! It seems so empowering to ask yourself "Why Not Me?" When you see someone doing what you would like to be able to do or aspire to and you ask that question you would imagine you are asking a positive and would feel motivated - But it doesn't happen  :O( There's a reason it doesn't happen and there is a way t make it happen and when you know the difference you are in charge and charged. Charged with being able to envision yourself doing that thing and it resonating through your whole body and then you get the motivation to start a plan to go from where you are to there, where you want to be. And the best part of this is it's really quite simple, remember in simplicity there is genius, and better than that I get to share all of it in this single episode. Now I could tell you hear but it is a podcast and that necessitates an auditory conversation so there are only two or three things you have to do. Set your intention and add a pinch of c

How to Successfully Reach Your Goals - Act As If "But What if I can't?" And NO it's not Fake It Until You Make It!! We've talked about acting as if on a number of episodes and it hit me the other day 'What if you have trouble acting as if' or 'You just don't get it, can't do it?' - That would be a problem and might lead you to not reach those goals or slow you down or make them less successful. So....... I put my head into it and came up with this - "What?"    Well, you're just going to have to press play and liste seeing as this is a podcast and not a book. I'll go through some thoughts on what might be stopping you and unlike others, I'll go into HOW you can change that and get to achieving that success you were destined for. All good stuff!   :O) So what are you waiting for? Press play and pick up all the golden nuggets and share this with everyone. Here's the link: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/267-how-to-successfully-reach-your-goals-act-as-if Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave

Savor Your Experience(s) And make them better in the future now Your mind, your unconscious mind, is so powerful and always willing to do what you ask So.......................... Let's use it. I'll share an experiment I did a long time ago and one we can use. Here's my adaption of it that I use most 'daze'. It's so simple and effective and I've found it always works - ALWAYS!!!!! A simple question: that will have you experiencing the richness of any event and if like me you want that event to be more successful and be able to learn from it for the future Enjoy and be prepared to have the best future ever! Please share this with everyone you know so they too can take advantage of this - Here's the link to use: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-351-savor-your-experience/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentun

Stop and Pause version 2.0 15 seconds away from ......... From just musing about making changes to my, our lives and when we do the new way becomes the new normal which simply becomes our normal - makes sense?? So what's this new version Cloughie???? What, how would you like to feel. What emotion would be the most appropriate emotion for right now, what would make this moment even better, feel better? Come with me and I'll show you right now and when you do, consciously that is, because it is so good for you it will become a habit - a habit of feeling just the way you want to, now that has to be Awesome. This doesn't replace version 1 it just gives more choice and choosing how you feel is a good choice. Please feel good enough to share - Here's the link: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-350-stop-and-pause-version-2-0/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscri

Understand the fear and do it anyway When you learn it disappears In some way, this episode is inspired by Susan Jeffers great book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, I bought my copy a few years ago and unconsciously I believe it's helped me do things I never thought I'd do. The more I look into 'stuff', that well-known technical term, such as Fear, Anxiety, FOMO, Imposter Syndrome, Low Self-Esteem, and lack of confidence the more I get to reinforce the that they all have a positive intention AND when we understand that and the real conflict it's causing they fade away and disappear. It's fighting it, trying to push through it, or against it, you're fighting your unconscious mind and there's only one winner there! AND how's that actually working for you? It's not, is it? AND it's probably getting more and more intense as time goes by. There's a simple way to let go of so much of this, In Simplicity there is Genius - Bless 'Albie' Einstien!!! Come with me in this deeper dive than most go and let's learn from my

Driving or a passenger? leading or lead? Do you feel or better still know that you're in charge of where you are going? Do you feel you are your driver with a road map and directions? OR Do you feel like a passenger being taken on a journey to who (Not You) knows where without a destination and I guess feeling a little lost? We'd all like to feel the first yet I think we more often feel the second - or is that just me? Let's muse this together over the next 5 minutes or so as just understanding this can make the first more obtainable. This will probably lead to a longer podcast episode -what do you think? Here's the link if you really do want to share it: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-349-driving-or-a-passenger/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I kn

What's the point - There's always a point You just have to recognize it Is there a point to self-development, bettering yourself, or following a path of personal development? Look I know and you know the answer so why sometimes is it so hard and why do we falter? Everyone tells you it's the thing to do - that's a no-brainer! Derrr! What they don't tell you is how to make it easier to succeed at it or what to do when you do falter Da DA! That's where we are going in this episode, understanding what's happening when we falter and ways to use it as a springboard to the next level. It doesn't matter in which context you're stuck in this will just work. So come with me on this dive to find your success and when you have please share this episode so others can follow you. Here's the link: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/265-whats-the-point-theres-always-a-point Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any oth

Climb every mountain because... When you do you will achieve what is uniquely you A spontaneous five-minute quickie podcast and we're on YouTube too (I'll put the link down below) Straight from an insight from my morning journaling I heard 'When you reach the top of the mountain there's no-one there' ....... or is there and are there other mountains? You betcha' Or is the mountain the metaphor of your personal achievements, your unique metaphor, and can you guide more to the top or be that inspiration? Please listen and muse Here's the link of the audio to share:  https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-348-climb-every-mountain-because and that YouTube link:  https://youtu.be/npzKTHaXeBk Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more

The BS of You Are the Average of the 5 People You Spend The Most Time With Or maybe it's not quite as you think it is We've all heard this and it seems, on the face of it, to make sense but if we look deeper what would you find? Well that's exactly where we're headed in this episode, to explore why this is not complete BS but more of a generalization and generalizations as we know are too general :O) When you know the 'truth' of the real effect and where and how that effect is created then we can really understand specifically the way you are affected and I'll let this little secret 'out of the bag' it isn't just those 5 people! And knowledge, whilst we think is power, as we know without action is useless, and if you are prepared to come with me as I share with you some golden nuggets of HOW to address this and in fact become the one person that brings up the average. This could have been a '2 parter' but I got in the flow and couldn't stop so buckle up and let's learn together and when you do, please share t

Sh*t happens and how to use it People often talk of it happening but very few talk of how to deal with it or use it and that's where we are different! Let's dive into this less discussed subject and find the causes, how and why we view it, or filter it into our subjective experience in the way we do. How can we change our experience of these experiences and use them for good is again very seldom shared and in this episode, as usual, we'll go into the 'HOW TOs' We will also look at both the negative sh*t happening and the POSITIVE sh*t happening. There is explicit content here, I guess the title gives that away, but please don't let that stop you from coming with me and learning ways and processes you can gain control of what happens around you and how it affects you. As usual, there's not so much narrative here as it's an audio experience so dive in and press play >>> If you like what you hear please share this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/263-sht-happens-and-how-to-use-it/ Shine brightl

Being Kinda Kind Not a 'Soppy' podcast just a likkle bit deep What is it with all this vitriol and shouting at each other and not thinking? I know it's a few but hell it's noisy!!!! Given all of that a couple of things that have happened recently have shone a light on simply being kind. It may cost you nothing, maybe a little bit, we've all got the ability, the skill yet how many use it and if we do use it could we do it more often - Being kind that is. You would think this would be a very short episode but there's more in this than you would think -  until you think that is    :O) And that's what I've done here and I hope you will join me for 'a spell' and see how you feel or see or hear the world differently. I hope you do and enjoy it too. If you do please be kind and share this episode, here's the link: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/262-being-kinda-kind/ Thank you as always for spending your valuable time with me, together we will make a difference Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can le

The Amateur or Professional You And It's Your Choice Another 5-Minute Quickie podcast episode to get you thinking Are you an Amateur or Professional in everything you do? You see you don't have to be paid for what you do to act professional and when you do act 'As If' you were a professional everything will change. Sometimes it's only a little bit of fear or anxiety that holds you back or it may you have never thought this way. So come with me for the next 5 or so minutes and let's start to think differently and affect so many different contexts/areas of your life from career, side hustles, hobbies, creativity or well you fill in the blank. Please enjoy and share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-347-the-amateur-or-professional-you Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to

How Hard Should You Work?? Inspired by the Chase Jarvis podcast 'Creative Calling' I love this guy's work and I just had to stick my two cents worth to his podcast of the same title. It inspired me to look at this slightly differently in as much as 'How hard shouldn't you work?' and how can we ensure we have work/life harmony in everything we do and how hard we should or shouldn't put ourselves into everything we do, that's right everything we do. When you get this right life just opens up and allows you to do more and experience so much wonder and that's got to be good - Right? Come with me to explore this subject and I'll share with you not only the How-To but the What Ifs as well. I think we're a little unique that way because so few go into what if let alone plural :O) In the next 35 minutes, you could actually change your life for the better and for all those that surround you and the only payment is to 'Pay It Forward' - Share what you learn and share the podcast here's the link to this episode: https:

Taking the Anxiety and Fear from Planning Your Future I just couldn't let this go I'm pretty proud of the previous podcast 'Not another Bloody goal-setting workshop' and the detail I put into it and then it hit me. DOH!!! What about the what if? What about the 'what if' you might ask? Exactly :O) I missed it, I fell into the trap that everyone else does and is at the core of our podcast philosophy which is to share the 'How to's' and the what if those don't work. You see everyone who shares this kinda stuff forgets that sometimes we have things that stop us from planning our future, our goals, or our wishes such as Limiting Beliefs, Negative Emotions, and resultant behaviors. The 'I'm Not Worth It', 'Who Am I To' - You fill in the blank The Fear, Anxiety, Guilt - You fill in the blank The Procrastination, Starting Not Finishing, The Giving Up - You fill in the blank I couldn't let it pass, I couldn't let it go. So I've addressed this probably the most important part of planning your future, your goals, your w