Personal Development Unplugged

Feel Good and Getting Better it me or do we all want everything NOW! Instantaneously or even quicker.I think we've fallen into the trap that instant gratification is the thing. But if we get that then we want the next thing and the next thing and I feel we miss out. Why do we want everything instantaneously? It got me thinking how does this apply to our personal development? Our dreams and desires? Enjoying the adventure and not just the elusive prize. Then I got to thinking about therapy and how I like quick and comfortable change. Is that in conflict with the adventure of developing our true self? If you would, come follow me on this little dive of of discovery of how we can create a practice of celebrating who and where we are and being curious of what's to come. It's really not how fast. It's enjoying how good and getting better. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/392-feel-good-and-getting-better/   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions

My Reminder To You I don't know if it's just me but I need reminding to use what I know or at least I think I do. Over the years I, and you, have learned a lot and on the most part I think we use that learning unconsciously but every now and then I get a reminder from a podcast, a video, a book or what someone might say and I go "I bloody know that!!!! why aren't I doing it? Doh!!!" So this short muse is just that - a reminder to check that we're using all the skills we have learned to move to the next level. I hope it makes sense and that you feel able to take it in the spirit it is given and maybe share it to https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-445-my-reminder-to-you/ and there's also a visual in the the form of a YouTube video here: https://youtu.be/jk-2XFf4egg Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.c

Reviewing The Past To Move Forward Now, I know what you're thinking – why dwell on the past? Isn't personal development all about the future? Well, yes and no. Here's the thing: understanding our past is like having a map. It shows us where we've been, helps us see the patterns in our journey, and guides us toward where we want to go. Think about it – when you look back at your own life, what do you see? Moments of triumph, sure, but also those stumbles and falls. And guess what? Both are equally valuable. Those victories? They remind you of your strengths and capabilities. Those mistakes? They’re not failures; they're lessons in disguise, packed with insights about what to avoid and how to navigate obstacles more effectively. Let's take a practical example: maybe you started a project that didn’t quite hit the mark. Instead of brushing it off, dissect it. What worked? What didn’t? What could you do differently next time? This kind of reflection transforms past experiences into stepping stones rather than

Just One More Equals Success Tony Robbins once asked "of the set of 10 press ups which one is the most beneficial?" the answer "The 11th" :O) To be the best version of ourselves we know we need to stretch ourselves every day but, and I don't like buts, too much leads to overwhelm and giving up that's why 'JUST ONE MORE' works. This is a short 5-minute muse to remind ourselves it's not how much but how consistent we are gets results that build on the last result and build exponentially. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-444-just-one-more and maybe watch the video: https://youtu.be/Dl7dgtiY2Ig   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe

Changing Your Attitude To Imposter Syndrome When you look at things differently the things you look at are different, I love that saying. So if we change the way we look at Imposter syndrome, change our attitude, Imposter syndrome changes too if not disappears. And we all suffer from Imposter Syndrome in one form or another, in different contexts, and no one escapes from it - from the rich, the famous to little old you and me. A little warning there is 4 or 5 sort of swear words near the end of the episode but they do make sense So what is it?: Imposter syndrome, a psychological phenomenon, corrodes self-esteem, creating a constant fear of being exposed as a fraud despite achievements. Individuals afflicted often doubt their abilities, attributing success to luck or circumstance rather than competence, leading to chronic stress, anxiety, and depression. This pervasive insecurity hampers professional growth, impeding career advancement and stifling creativity. Relationships suffer as affected individuals strug

Making a Habit of Feeling Great Not all habits are bad   'O) I believe when we cultivate a habit of feeling not just good but GREAT things begin to happen. Your RAS ( reticulated activating system) gets fired to look for more of the same I you believe in the Law of Attraction you frequency goes up to attract more of the same Serendipity happens more often Coincidence happens more often You get lucky So in this 5-minte muse we'll explore a way how to get this all to happen Please share this with everybody so they to can get the benefit of feeling Great https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-443-making-a-habit-of-feeling-great and the YouTube link is here too: https://youtu.be/iW_xnV6OvrU Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more

Creating Yours and My Greatest Moments I overheard someone say "My greatest successes did not come from my greatest successes but from my greatest defeats" Defeats are inevitable companions. They arrive unexpectedly, challenging our resolve and testing our mettle. However, within each defeat lies a profound opportunity for growth and learning. In this podcast episode, we delve into the invaluable lessons gleaned from our defeats and how they shape our paths towards success. Defeats are not just setbacks; they are profound teachers. They teach resilience, humility, and the art of adaptation. When we encounter failure, we are forced to confront our limitations, reassess our strategies, and emerge stronger than before. It is through defeat that we discover the depth of our determination and the power of our perseverance. Moreover, defeats cultivate empathy and understanding. They remind us that we are all fallible beings, prone to mistakes and missteps. By embracing our defeats, we foster compassion for ourselve

There Is Always Another Day, Hour or Minute Let's start over If you're like me we can berate ourselves so much worse than we would ever speak to a best friend. I have been known, only to me, to call myself some really harsh stuff. Does it help? Absolutely not!!!! It detracts completely what we were trying to do and what we want to do, yet does that stop us? In this 5-minute quickie I want to muse on how we can stop this with another way of thinking that I think, although terribly simple, re-frames everything. So come with me and press play - let's muse together Oh! If you can share this that would be kind https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-442-there-is-always-another-day-hour-or-minute and then there's the YouTube Video link  https://youtu.be/2i3AzSsuECs Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you

Taking My Last Breath So We Can Live A Good Life If it's possible that we have only one life on this little old planet Earth what a waste to waste any of that time. Knowing you're here, I'm guessing you will feel the same as me too. So............................. What would happen if we were to imagine going to the end of our time line of the future and taking our last breath and look back on what we want to have achieved in that life time? And because it's in our imagination you can do this imagining everything you want to have done, experienced - the sight, sounds and feelings of all your dreams having been truly realized. Oh! and probably a bit more because you can   :O) And it's how we can take notice of those reminders and Ah-Ha moments that will guide us to fulfill this life with amazing times. Please come with me, it's not the longest of episodes, and I think we'll make a difference that makes the difference to a life well lived. If you like what you hear please share this episode: https://personalde

Learning By Not Copying Or Modeling the skills you want to learn Modeling excellence involves observing and understanding the methods, strategies, and mindset of those who excel in a particular field, and then adapting and applying those insights to your own work or life. It's about recognizing patterns of success and distilling the essence of what makes someone or something excellent, rather than merely copying their actions without understanding the underlying principles. When you model excellence, you're not trying to replicate every detail of what someone else does. Instead, you're looking to extract the core principles and approaches that lead to success and applying them in your own unique way. This approach allows for creativity and innovation while still benefiting from the wisdom and experience of those who have achieved excellence in your chosen field. By modeling rather than copying, you can develop a deeper understanding of what it takes to excel and tailor it to your own strengths and circumstanc

A Twist To The Act of Gratitude I often feel the act of gratitude, writing those 5 things you're grateful for can end up being a little bit by rote, and the feeling just diluted. This got me thinking of how we can vary this to keep things alive. This is not a replacement just a little spicing up and gets you thinking a little deeper about what you are grateful for. Sometimes just breaking the pattern ( a pattern interrupt) can make all the difference. And feeling grateful, truly grateful makes all the difference to our lives and what we attract in them. Please share  https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-440-a-twist-to-the-act-of-gratitude And there is as usual now a video of this recording here at YouTube https://youtu.be/lguyPPMPYHw Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to th

I'm Scarred and Imperfect PART 2 We've done the talk now it's the walk In the journey of self-discovery and personal growth, embracing imperfections isn't just about accepting them; it's also about engaging in the profound act of self-healing. When we confront our scars and imperfections head-on, we embark on a journey of healing that can lead to greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Self-healing begins with acknowledging and accepting our imperfections without judgment or self-criticism. It's about recognizing that our scars, whether physical or emotional, are part of our story but do not define us. Instead of viewing them as flaws to be hidden or fixed, we can see them as opportunities for growth and transformation. One of the most powerful tools in self-healing is self-compassion. Just as we would show kindness and understanding to a friend facing challenges, we can offer the same compassion to ourselves. Self-compassion involves treating ourselves with gentleness, patience, and understandin

I'm Scarred and Imperfect Part 1 Let's celebrate just how we are and then learn how to we can change to be who we wish to be and have what we wish to have. We do need to acknowledge where we are in this striving to be the best version of ourselves so we can build on it, start and continue to build from a firm and stable foundation. To me - We're all a ikkle bit broken or a little bit damaged, we've all got a few 'isms' and we carry a little bit of baggage and that's great! Because when we do truthfully acknowledge this to ourselves we can begin to make meaningful changes, which I guess is why you listen hear. When we try to deny that imposter syndrome ism, guilt ism, anxiety ism and every other emotional ism you can think of we will continue the internal conflict and waste that valuable energy we have. Let's use it to create a life we can be proud of. As usual I'll share some personal stories and insights. In this episode we'll lay all the ground work for the changes you want to make ready for part 2. I won't

Be Careful What You Practice You might forget what you are practicing and find the results not to your liking. This little 5-minute FMQ muse was inspired by listening to Denzil Washington correcting a reporter if he practices telling untruths that's what you will end up doing as a habit. You see, we often get confused thinking practice makes perfect and it certainly doesn't. Also, we have to practice consciously - which we don't. All the more reason to be careful if you want the results you dream of and I know you do because you wouldn't be here. Let's go make this clear by pressing play and then sharing to help others practice what they desire https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-439-be-careful-what-you-practice There's a video of me for the FMQ here at YouTube  https://youtu.be/nBSvUt1Zq1o Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@pers

But I Don't Know Where To Start We've all cried this at one time or another - Or is it just me? And every reason I give seems so valid. The harsh truth is every reason you give is an excuse or a whiney reason to get us out of doing the thing and in a lot of cases the thing could be just the thing you need to do to make your life GREAT. So let's go make a difference and find out what stops you and what will make you start. I'll share a couple of personal stories and even a way when you really don't know what step to take so there will never be an excuse or reason ever. I hope this episode makes a real difference to your success, which is why I do this, and in that spirit please share this episode and the whole Personal Development Unplugged podcast: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/385-but-i-dont-know-where-to-start/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. J

Hypnosis - What It's Really Like Let's take away any fear you might have If you ask 1000 hypnotists what is hypnosis you will probably get a 1000 different answers - And as a client why would you care? Yet I get clients who come to me with deep emotional problems, and some not deep, wanting help but are afraid, scared of what hypnosis feels like. Will be out of control? Will I remember any of it? Will you click your fingers and I'll be out of it- unconscious? Valid as those questions are, the facts of what hypnosis or some say trance is so different and is quite the contrary. Come listen and find out for yourself how I explain this to my clients Then please share with anyone who has those misconceptions https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-438-hypnosis-what-its-really-like And now the link if you want to see this in video form too  https://youtu.be/3R3GkdbOH4U Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any

The Direct Debit Of Investing In You And Your Success What a mouthful and seems very technical It's a metaphor   :O) In the financial world, people talk about capital and compound interest In the networking world, people talk about social capital And it got me thinking 'What about our world, the world of our personal development?' -you and me. How can we use the principles of financial investing and networking that work on ourselves? Digging the well before you are thirsty (that's not my phrase by the way I've borrowed it. And I have got some 'How too's' in this episode that I think make sense, are simple (we like simple) and if you do them they will increase your success and confidence compoundly (if that's a word- it is now). So come with me on this not too longa dive and let's learn ways to make our lives better. Please share all that you learn so you learn even more deeply https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/384-the-direct-debit-of-investing-in-you-and-your-success Shine brightly Paul Please remembe

Making Success Simply Achievable The way we speak, and the words we use can change the way we feel. Now I know that's completely left field and never been said before  NOT Yet in this 5-minute quickie episode, I want to share one word that when used changes everything Change everything on the outside and even more importantly on the inside. Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-437-making-success-simply-achievable Oh! there's a video to this too  https://youtu.be/f_ef_kTnUK8 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiet

How Do I Compare To Others And why is it so BS when I do (it wrong)? Another listers question having trouble with this - comparing ourselves to others and feeling bad. And an apology there are a couple of swear words in this episode - sorry they just slipped out and I do think keeping them in is appropriate and deliberately a little shocking I think we all have issues with comparing to others and I want to share my personal experiences, yup plural, and what happened. The thing is we only see the outside of people, their showreels, and I know you and I never get to compare against how they really are. and if we did it might be a different result to our emotions. I will take you on an audio adventure of who to compare to and use that comparison to make your life better every day, week, month, and year. I'll also share how to compare to others that work too. Oh, am I a sharer.   :O) Talking of sharing here's a link to share this episode with others if they haven't a podcast app https://personaldevelopmentunplug

Practice Makes Perfect - NO! Practice, any kind of practice, does one thing Practice makes ...........................PERMANENT Having to be perfect is has great intention of not failing, or appearing stupid, of doing things that others can't criticize and make us feel bad But it works from the basis of fear and failure and a lot of PAIN. Now knowing practice makes permanent it becomes obvious practicing things badly, from the basis of fear and failure and a lot of PAIN is bad and will permanently make this worse with more fear, failure, and a lot of PAIN. So let's see how we can make this so much more comfortable, rewarding, and pleasurable. To do that, because this a podcast, after all, you'll first have to press play. Then of course share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-436-practice-makes-perfect-no/ If you want to watch this after here's the video link: https://youtu.be/SxgNDI-LzdA Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.