School Of Attraction Podcast

It may surprise you to hear me suggest that romantic love is based largely on a transaction between two or more people, and that if someone doesn't keep living up to their end of the bargain - then the relationship will fail. It may also surprise you that I still think that love is very real and romance is still alive and well in both men and women, and isn't going anywhere. I want to tell you why understanding the true transactional nature of love can be incredibly empowering and help you to have much more rewarding and long-lasting relationships

4 Online dating tips to help guys get casual sex relationships with women from their dating apps. When looking for dating advice for men - it's often focussed on how to get dates, rather than how to create a casual hookup - which is exactly what so many guys are really after. As a dating coach of over 11 years, I'll show you 4 important things you need to do with your online dating profiles to consistently find new friends with benefits. 

Why are men feeling increasingly frustrated with dating?  Could it be because both men and women have too many choices? What does the choice paradox outlined by Barry Schwartz have to do with dating and relationships? As it turns out, it could tell us quite a lot about why finding women to date can be so frustrating in this day and age. 

Do you find yourself sabotaging all chance of success when you really like a girl? It's true that most men I work with have gotten very good at self-sabotaging their own success, and even though they have all the requirements to be quite good with women, they always find a way to fail just before they can get success. The worst thing is that our internal reasons for sabotaging ourselves live in our sub-conscious and so they are often great big dating blind spots for us. I'm going to show you how to spot your dating sabotaging behaviours and work out what's REALY going wrong in your flirting and dating attempts. 

My complete guide to going out and getting fantastic Tinder profile photos that guarantee you'll get matches and dates. The most difficult part of any Tinder profile is getting the right photos is having access to good quality shots - but most men aren't lucky enough to have any lying around. This guide will help you get out there right now and get some great shots you can use to give your profile that much needed boost.

Learn how to get a friend with benefits relationship EASILY. How can you know if a woman is open to casual sex? How can you create a friends with benefits relationship with her? How can you maintain a casual sex relationship?I'm going to show you how to find, attract, and establish friends with benefits relationships without making the kinds of mistakes most men regularly make with women. 

I joined a Sugar Daddy online dating website (seeking arrangement) to see what it was all about.As it turned out, I had a really fascinating experience that taught me quite a bit about the current state of women's online dating as well as the true nature of human relationships. I've definitely learned things that can be directly applied to other online dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. So what did I learn? Keep listening to find out

How do you know if a woman you've just started dating is actually a good catch? Is there a way to tell if she's about to make your life a living hell once you get into a long term relationship? Today I want to share the 3 relationship flags that every man should think about prior to getting serious about a new woman in his life. This is the dating advice that I wish someone had given me when I was a younger man. 1. What are her friends like?2. What is her relationship with her father like?3. What are her past relationships like? If you can answer these questions, you've learned a heck of a lot about who she really is and what she'll be like to date. 

How has online dating changed during the coronavirus outbreak? Do women use Tinder or Bumble differently? Do they look for different kinds of men? What are the most curious ways that women have now changed their dating behaviours? With Covid-19 on the top of everyone's mind, we are all coping with the current situation in different ways. I've noticed some very curious changes that have happened in the way women are using online dating apps, as well as the kinds of men they're looking for. 

What is your attachment style? How does that attachment style determine whether you're going to face an ongoing string of bad relationships, or whether you're going to find an incredible woman?Attachment theory has been around for over 50 years, and it studies the ways in which our early childhood impacts our anxiety levels around relationships as adults, and can have a massive impact on the quality of the relationships that we have. 

2 powerful strategies to help you stop being needy around women.  Women consistently rate neediness as being one of the biggest turn-offs - and yet so many guys find it hard to reduce the amount of needy behaviour that finds its way into their interactions. Imagine if you could stop feeling so 'thirsty' for women and instead started focussing on what you really wanted from a woman and being willing to walk away. It's a myth that women are the gatekeepers of sex - in fact you should be your own gatekeeper as well, and insist on meeting better quality women.

What if self-confidence doesn't really exist? What if people who are trying to learn to be more confident are going about it all wrong? Almost all of us want to know how to be more confident, and in this video, I want to show you how the key to becoming more confident might be to STOP trying to act more confident, and instead focus on being whatever you are when you let go of your insecurities. 

We've all heard that women are turned off by weak men - And that the best way to keep a woman attracted is not to show any weakness at all, to remain stoic and alpha. But most men feel a lot of conflict about this solution (rightfully so).  After all, one of the reasons to have a long term partner is for emotional support and intimacy. So what's a better solution? How can you share your vulnerabilities and weaknesses with women - and indulge your emotionally insecure moments without losing her respect and attraction? The answer is Empowered Vulnerability, and that's what I'm going to talk about today. 

Do you find yourself fixating on being able to attract those women who seem to be the hottest in any room? The ones who work for hours to look as good as they do? The ones who work hard to ensure they have every man's eyes on them? Getting fixated on these women is actually a dangerous trap that many men fall into - and they get fixated on the wrong women for the wrong reasons, and often this can lead to a huge amount of dating and relationship pain.Learn how to avoid falling into this dating trap by watching this video.

What do women want in a man? Do they want the bad boy? Do they want the rock star? Do they want the strong and silent type? No matter where you look online, trying to work out what kind of man turns women on is complicated, and you're likely to get mixed messages, and that's frustrating. As it turns out there are many different kinds of men that women like, many stereotypes of guy that girls get excited about. Because not all women just like one kind of guy. 

When women play games with and try to manipulate you,  it's frustrating, and angering - and very often it makes us feel mad at the woman, and sometimes women in general. Last week I went on a few dates with a woman who started to play games with me, and I felt like it was a fantastic learning opportunity for both myself and my audience. When you can understand the deeper reasons why women play games with men, then you can often find yourself becoming less frustrated because you can really see the human element behind all the mind games. So listen to my story now to discover the reasons women play games with men.

A lot of our dating frustrations have their roots in our blindspots. Our blindspots are the results of the rules of thumb we have about women, about yourselves, about sex, and about attraction - And if these rules that we hold for ourselves are mal-adaptive, then it can prove to be very difficult to attract women. I want to go over where these rules of thumb come from, what some of the most common rules of thumb are, and also how to begin to let go of our subconscious rules we have about the world around us so you can go on to become more successful with women. 

Sick and tired of your tinder match rate constantly dropping, and it eventually seems like no women in your area are going to be interested in you ever again?Working on my own Tinder, I found a really fantastic strategy for both halting the Tinder ranking decay, and for increasing the variety of women that end up matching with you. Sometimes focussing on a tighter niche of women can prove to be the better way to get women more interested in you. This strategy also works on other dating apps like Bumble and Hinge as well. 

Establishing and Maintaining Casual Sex Relationships can be tricky at the best of times. Today I'll be bringing Lloyd from TheSingleGuy channel to discuss some critical insights on the big mistakes guys make when it comes to keeping casual relationships healthy. If you've ever had a woman fall for you and you only wanted to keep things casual, or if you've had women in the past get angry or jealous at you even though you never lied to them, then this is the video for you. 

Open relationships can be emotionally complicated at the best of times, and I've learned the critical importance of a technique called emotional zeroing out which has really helped keep my partner and I happy even when things get complicated. A few nights ago at a swingers party, I felt myself getting triggered by a few things that were going on. Rather than get mad at my partner and lash out at her, I took some space to emotionally zero out, and really get to the core of what I was feeling and why so I could come to her the next day and talk to her from a much better head space. This process is something that all successful open relationships go through from time to time, so I hope this gives you some insight if you're thinking of getting into an open relationship yourself.