Personal Development Unplugged

Jumping To The Worst and Wrong Conclusion Why do we do that? Even though I know this stuff a little I still fall. In  5 minutes let me tell you about an experience that taught me what I know in a way I won't forget. There's a prehistoric reason why we do this that needs a little adjustment. What would happen if we Paused before we JUMP Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-407-jumping-to-the-worst-and-wrong-conclusion Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests, and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.c

I'm A Peeping Tom I'm not - It's a metaphor silly It's all about looking through windows, that is different perspectives and seeing the world differently and full of opportunities. Let me tell you two stories one from a little while ago and one just from yesterday. The first is around a guy called Geoff Thompson and sheds real light on what we can do, instead of thinking of all the things that take up our time and our thoughts that we cannot affect. It's where we can make a difference and where our energy can really make a difference. Which is my window through which I can see how I can find fulfillment and hopefully make a difference. I wonder..........? The second story, my story, is getting angry, p**sed off by other people's actions and how that affects other people in my life. And how I was reminded what I know and not to wallow in that anger or making the excuse that it's those people who MAKE me angry. I was looking through the wrong window (like a peeping tom) so what did I do? Maybe this will resonat

Just a simple metaphor - or is it? Short and sweet Something I have borrowed from my son, Joseph. A lovely metaphor that was created for him, shared with me and used in my trainers' training. See, hear, and feel what you do And please share it either verbally or by this link: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-406-just-a-simple-metaphor-or-is-it Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast F

Does It Take a long time Or Is It Quick - a ramble from the Heart and it is a ramble, a chat on both the time it takes to change and the time we give to our personal development. And I have noticed confusion, especially as in our personal development, we often need some time of therapy. In personal development, there is a smothering of people professing the missing key, the 1-minute hack, to hidden way, and all that BS - And yes to me it is all BS. Your personal development, and mine, is a lifelong adventure. Yet I also hear that therapy has to be seriously long and drawn out and you have to dig deep into that trauma and I come back to the conclusion above - It's BS. Change can and does happen in a moment when we learn, especially at the unconscious level. So come with me as I go between the two, backwards and forwards, to hopefully see both with a different view or understanding we can use so we can be inspired to create the life you deserve and can achieve. Oh! I do swear a little and that's just me being a

Couldn't Everybody Use A Little Bit Of Therapy Don't wait - Until you're broken 'Nip it in the Bud' comes to mind I tell my clients when they think they are almost there "Don't be an adult" and what do I mean by that - Don't put up with 90% we're allowed 100%. And that's the same when we experience an issue, don't put up with it, get help early. You know the expression 'When is the best time to plant a tree? - yesterday and if not today!' There are so many great therapists around and you wouldn't think twice about getting help from a personal trainer in the gym, golf, speaking and, well you fill in the blank. I see clients change in a couple of hours, and so can you and you deserve to be comfortable in life. Please have a listen it's only five (well 10) minutes and may just make a difference and you do NOT have to put up with not feeling comfortable - ever! Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-405-couldnt-everybody-use-a-little-bit-of-therapy Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can

Using Regret To Succeed When you look back and realize "Oh I wish I'd" or "If only I'd" or you fill in the blank and feel that regret. For me I then would feel angry, frustrated, and a few more expletives  :O) What a waste of emotion(s)! We'll talk abut that in the episode. And despite all of that, I, we still want to do that stuff so how do we get rid of the regret, guilt, and those limiting beliefs? That's the whole point of this episode (and every episode) to give the how-to processes and this episode is no exception. We dive into what we can learn from not doing and those negative emotions as they're there for a reason and that reason when learned are the golden nuggets to either starting or maybe shelving but if we do decide to start over in the right frame of mind that will bring success. That's the plan anyway and all you have to do is listen (take notes!), learn and then commit with the motivation to succeed. Sounds great doesn't it? So what are you waiting for press play and let's get on! Oh! And as

I Have To Be Perfect Because I'm Not Good Enough If I'm not perfect I'm a failure Really???? Just a 5-minute dive into perfectionism, yes another 'ism' And I hear this so much in both my hypnotherapy clients and coaching clients "If I'm perfect I will not be judged" or "If I'm perfect in what I do I will not be a failure" - "I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH" A couple of things we'll talk about in this five minute muse: Nothing, yes nothing,  can ever be perfect, and striving for it only leads to feeling a failure and the anxiety of thinking you are being judged. So please join me, it might just make the difference that makes the difference https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-404-i-have-to-be-perfect-because-im-not-good-enough Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know yo

Excellence - Totally Doable You just have to ask the right questions of the right people I start with my story from my experience at my NLPTrainers training where I really became anxious before the certification day presentation. I needed help and was stumped. Then an exercise came up just before and I found the right person to ask the right question and my anxiety disappeared (well to an acceptable and appropriate level given the circumstances) Then this reminded me of how to achieve excellence in what you want to do or be. To act 'AS IF' and that's where I have gone with this exercise to learn how and I'll share it with you. You see you actually know what to ask, even if you think you don't, and you know who to ask, even if you think you don't. Well, that's as clear as mud Cloughie! I hear you say. All will be revealed in this not too long longer podcast. What would like to do better, to excel at? and what would that be like if you did? WEll that's exactly where we are going my friend. I think and hope you

A Muse on Hypnosis Why do I love hypnosis? Why or what do I think hypnosis is so important and what it does, can do? I'm often asked why I learned hypnosis and the real truth. I did it for every other reason than helping others - it was all about me and a way into NLP. That all changed within about 2 hours of the first day of my first training, but that's another story for another day. You see if you don't consciously choose to run your issue and those emotions, negative and positive what does? -Your unconscious mind, your best friend, and where best to go to make changes? Your unconscious mind, your best friend. A five-minute muse, a conversation, to hopefully get you to think and maybe want to learn more = about hypnosis and Your Unconscious mind - Your Best Friend. To Share is to care: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-403-a-muse-on-hypnosis/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episod

THE GIFT We All Have But Do We Use It? And if we did what would happen to our world and our achievements? You and I and in fact, everyone on little old planet Earth have this skill, this gift. When were younger we used it almost all the time. There is so much we can see when we simply look around that is the effect of this skill and some people, Walt Disney for example, exploded with it and we all got the benefit. So what is this gift? this skill? If I told you no one can take it away from you or make you use it in a particular way would that make it easier to guess? Well it's probably better described as two things Your IMAGINATION and Your THOUGHTS and IDEAS They just go hand in hand. Let me share with you my thoughts and how we can develop these skills to make our lives and those around us richer in every way. And after that may be you could imagine how many people you could share this episode with? https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/347-the-gift-we-all-have-but-do-we-use-it Shine brightly Paul Plea

The Key To Getting Things Done - Goodbye Procrastination and Overwhelm And all in five minutes The secret key to banishing procrastination, which is not a secret by the way, but it is one thing hiding in plain sight What we do need to do is hide that bloody to-do list. And yes we all have them in one form or another even if it's only in your head - and that's the worst place to keep it. Hide it after we have used it in a special way and make today a success - and without that overwhelm. I'm not telling anymore because this is an audio podcast which means you have to press play and listen. And yes you will see this is the most simple thing and if you do it you will be amazed so don't put it off because it's so simple because it simply works. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-402-the-key-to-getting-things-done-good-bye-procrastination-and-overwhelm Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or

The Pain Of Not Doing The Things We Want To Do And we feel we should be doing them Oh! The pain of still not doing them In this episode, I am going to share with you a really personal side of me and my struggle, one that really brings on emotional pain. I really think this will resonate with you because we all experience this conflict. Sorry about the very occasion swear word but I think you will find them in context   :O) We all have things we keep putting off, things that if we did them could and would bring more pleasure, a massive amount of pleasure if you were able to do them but for some reason, I say excuse, we don't. And I am going to explain why that is And ....... How and what to do about it so we get to be successful, happy and achieve those dreams, goals or whatever you want. It's also simple, having said that if you just listen and don't do you will have wasted your time and will surely miss out on all that pleasure. So get a notepad, you'll need to take notes, press play >>>>>>> and I'll begin.

I Am A Loser Let me teach you how you can become one too Just a little while ago I had the inspiration to create a fantastic podcast. I created a wonderful mindmap of notes and stories and when I went to record .......... It's disappeared. and serendipity hit me just before because I heard great advice for when you lose something. The advice: If you lose something and go searching for it, when you find it put it in the first place you looked, and you'll always find it the next time you lose it - Credit goes to Kevin Kelly Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-401-i-am-a-loser/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Reme

Values - Are They Important? Is what's important to you of value? Values, core values, and those pesky identity beliefs run our world and guess what they are all stored in your unconscious mind. But what happens when your values in one context clash with those of a different context? Let me share a couple of stories of how I used values to decide my career and More importantly how you can elicit, discover, your own values and know how important that is and will be in the future. Now you're probably thinking if this is all unconscious mind 'STUFF; it will be really difficult and complicated and you would be WRONG!!!!!!!! I'll share with you a simple and effective way to find these values and which ones are the most important to you. I'll share with you and in turn, you might want to share this episode with others: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/345-values-are-they-important/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enj

Forget Mind Reading It Doesn't Work What are they thinking about me? Are they talking about me? And there's a lot more where those came from, don't you agree? and......... I know you have those conversations with yourself, I know I do So let's take five or so minutes to muse how ridiculous this form of mind reading is and how it has only one conclusion - more negativity So please press play >>>>>>> and then if you're kind please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-400-forget-mind-reading-it-doesnt-work Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence,

Reflections And The Art Of Waiting Looking into that metaphorical mirror Do you like who you see? It's often asked, "When you look in the mirror do you see the person you are meant to be?" And that can be a really silly question or a most profound one. Because in one way you should never see that reflection as there is always a bit more to achieve and experience, to make things even better. And the thing I ask is "Do you like what you see? " In this episode, we go deeper into this and also experience a visualization process to make the changes you want to have happen. You could repeat this as many times as you like as we're always changing and evolving, in fact as we grow and learn something new every day you will always be a slightly different and better version of yourself every day. The visualization is not really hypnosis but is better done with eyes closed so please take care to find a place where you will be undisturbed for about 10 minutes and maybe if you ask I could make this into a deeper process wi

Something Happened To Me This Morning From being triggered into being angry and saying things that I didn't like saying and then Breathe Stopping and Pausing I got to see things differently and the things I saw looked different and it made me think what we learn here works All vague I know but it's only a five-minute quickie so please listen, consider, act upon it if it resonates, and share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-399-something-happened-to-me-this-morning Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hy

Loneliness part 1 My first foray into thinking about loneliness and I have approached it from both a therapeutic way and a personal experience. So bear with me as I really haven't experienced loneliness to a major degree. Therapeutically in my eyes, loneliness is simply a behavior but one with some pretty negative emotions and effects and we explore them in this episode. I have also added a process within this episode that I think will help anyone suffering from loneliness so remember no driving from minute 18. I would really love your feedback as to my thoughts and to hear of your experiences so we can dive even deeper and find ways to let this silent virus go and I know we can if we work together- email me Please also share this episode because you never know who is suffering https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/343-loneliness-part-1/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share

Give Me A Break and give yourself a break too Not a pleasant day in the journal as I decided to tear myself off a strip, I really wasn't happy with myself and I thought I would share this with you, my friend. It was  all about not doing the 'stuff' I have learned and wondered what was all this self-improvement, self-development, and stretching to being a better me. And what did I learn from this rant, well that's what I want to share and hope you get what I got and to encourage you through down times, you know those times when we plateau. We are in this together and there is no getting off this adventure knowing that there are sometimes when we struggle and it's ok to give yourself a break, to take a breath, and then renew our walk on the path that's been prepared for us but we just didn't realize it So don't be so hard on yourself that you give up on achieving your dreams and goals - you will regret it if you do and I won't let that happen if I can help it, help you. I'm here for you Please share https://pe

The Anxiety Of Being Perfect because you will never achieve it and it'll drive you nuts Nothing can be perfect because we can always go just a little bit better and if you're a perfectionist that's a bit of a bummer and goes hand in hand with these: I'm not good enough I'm not worthy They'll find me out If this resonates with you then you're in the right place because I have an answer and understand why these go together so well. It's all about the positive intention of your unconscious mind trying to do something to protect from that terrible fear and anxiety of failure -(trust me I'm a therapist 9just nt your therapist) and the direct conflict it now causes in your life. I'll explain all about that in the podcast and I'll show you how you can change and get your unconscious mind to keep the intention of protecting you but this time in better ways that you both enjoy. simples Even if this doesn't truly resonate with you you will notice the principle of the process and the effects and after listening you may