Personal Development Unplugged

How Do You Know You Are UnConfident And Change It And Yes it is a word!!!!!! What would it be like to change that unconfidence or low self-esteem or anxiety and do it quickly? But how do you know how much unconfident we are? How do we measure it because it's not all the time in every area of your life? I measure my unconfidence with the way I feel, and how I think inside as things are happening. I'll share my experience when I got to know it - I even forgot my own name because of it! From there it's so easy to project that into the future and make it scary before it even happens, I think we can all remember that happening. Let's look at the different ways we prepare to 'fail' and those ways we thought something would be difficult and smashed it! The thing is confidence does not come from your achievements of the past it's attached to something more important - YOUR INTENTION. We'll dive deeply into that way of thinking and find examples from others such as Bill Burr that support this. It's all in our percepti

Making Life Great - The Antidote To The Pain of New Years Resolutions Let's create the pleasure of success And yes there is pain. The pain of thinking of what you have to change. The pain of thinking about what you're giving up and ultimately the pain of failure. What a lovely way to start the new year - NOT! So I have an antidote that will bring pleasure and feel pleasurable and it comes with a price. WHAT! A price? Yup! As usual, it's not just about listening, not just about knowing, no it's about both those and then applying it = Taking action. The thing is when you do and you get to feel that pleasure you know that you did it and that knowledge brings with it an empowerment that goes on to affect so many other areas of your life. It's a win - win -win and more The first thing is - I believe neither You nor I know what we want because we're not that intelligent. We might think we are and you probably think that now but we miss everything in the periphery and all opportunities that would make us feel so muc

Five Minutes To Find Your Calling Well, to plant the seed so it shows itself I believe you have you calling inside of you just waiting to be found and unlike so many that sell you have to be an entrepreneur to have it we'll show that is only 'clickbait' You, I, we all have something inside us that brings us joy, and happiness and makes a difference to both our lives and to those around us we just have to know how to look for it and see it when it's hiding in plain sight. Yes, I know this is only around 5 minutes, it is a 5-Minute Quickie episode, and I want to awaken that seed so you can begin to nurture it into bloom. We can dive deeper within the longer episodes and I think we will (email me your thoughts and questions) because there is only so much time we have on this little ol' planet Earth and we need to enjoy every minute we have on it, don't you agree? Thank you so much for your continued support and time and if you would continue to share all these episodes that would be grand. Here's a link to use i

Releasing Anxiety In The Moment with our Guest Tomasz Drybala Not only talking the talk but literally walking the talk too - Around the world! I am so pleased when someone reaches out to share thoughts with us and actually follows through (you would be surprised how many don't) Tom shares his thoughts on letting good anxiety and fear in a simple and really effective way. Although our approaches or terminology may seem a little different the core principles show to be the same - just a different perspective. And the thing is we can all share what we learn with others, either by explaining in conversations or simply by doing and being what we learn. Be the change you want to be in yourself and others. Please share this episode https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/318-releasing-anxiety-in-the-moment-with-our-guest-tomasz-drybala Please support Tom in his efforts, you can find him here https://tomaszdrybala.com/flow-up-global. From there you can find a link to all his social media. Tom's bio is here https://

When Baggage Unpacks Itself The Ah-Ha Moment Following on from the previous episode I now contradict myself - Well not really it's just that I gave this subject a little more thought of my experiences with clients when things, issues, 'stuff' just unpacks itself before our eyes, and the answer, as usual, has been hiding in plain sight. And it normally happens when we are sure, really sure, we know what caused the issue and that conviction hides the real reason and positive intention behind the issue. My metaphor for this is that we have all the jigsaw pieces on the floor but they are face down and someone has taken away the box top with the picture. Then as we explore the issue turn over one piece which rarely makes sense, then another which never seems to fit the first piece. but we go on and explore a little more and turn over a third piece. none of them fit but we see the connection and AH-Ha!!! There it is, and it was hiding in plain sight and it becomes so obvious and in the therapy room, the right proce

Are You Saying What You Want To Be Heard A simple way to ensure that what you say is what you mean We've all done it, I know have, said something that came out all wrong and mumbled over it, and ignored it by simply carrying on - Have you? Why do we do that? What a waste of words and the good sense that you have. What do you think of others when they do that? Yet we still do it. Well, there is such a simple way, and yes you know it In Simplicity There Is Genius, and I'll share it with you in around 5 minutes - WHAT! You heard it because it's the 5-Minute Quickie Podcast episode, slipped in between the weekly longer and deeper diving episodes. Please share what you listen to and learn, here's a link for those without an app: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-379-are-you-saying-what-you-want-to-be-heard Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me

Unpacking Baggage - But Do We Need To? A little while ago I received an email from a lister asking how to unpack the baggage in their life and I have my own thoughts on that. One of them is why do you need to unpack 'stuff' that you know wasn't nice? You might only get to feel that way again so why would you? There's also the thought that the emotional state you are in will affect how you remember events. They're never quite so bad when you feel good but you're probably not in that good space so how will that be? That also means memories are never really remembered as they were so for me, why consciously recall something that's not what it was? Yep! I know some therapists do regression 'stuff' but I personally don't get it when I think there are better and more comfortable ways to get the results you want. Obviously, if it's 'BIG STUFF' you will, I suggest, want to see a therapist, and I would recommend a good hypnotist with NLP and Time Line Therapy(tm) and get it sorted really quickly. Oh! That's how it can

The Cause of Anxiety - Fire - Ready - Aim!!!! That's what we do - Don't we, Don't you? I know I have Let's get real - So Ok, not the only cause of anxiety but one that we bring on ourselves with ease and it just makes things go from somewhere to worse. Yes I hear you, but I did it this way and it was fine and there is always a rule to fit the exception :O) I have had my experience doing it that way and failing (if we recognize failure as a thing), and with just a couple of tweaks changed things from somewhere to GREAT! And I share with you in this episode how I messed up and how I didn't and how you can do the latter so much more often until it becomes a success habit. And when you do anxiety and fear begin to disappear and self-confidence and self-esteem come to the fore. Whatsmore it's simple, and in simplicity there is genius, we know that. The only thing is knowing this stuff is not enough, knowing without putting that knowledge into action isn't worth s**t. Knowing what to do and doing what you know that

My Christmas Gift To You I couldn't think what to gift you There are already 55 free hypnosis tracks There is a great discount on my Premium Hypnosis products when you sign up to the free hypnosis So what could I do? Well, how about reducing my Supreme Inner Confidence program by $190 to less than $10 So that's what I have done for the whole of  the month of December 2022 Here's a link to where you can find it - https://www.paulcloughonline.com/confidence Paul Remember I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed m

Numbingly Comfortable - Are You? A state in which so many live I don't know who said this term but it's brilliant! If life's too bad and everything is going down you have to do something and you do If Life's really good you keep on doing the good stuff better But In the space in between, there is no action, we may stagnate and are numb -numbingly comfortable and it can creep up on us, and before you know it dreams disappear. WHAT A WASTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let's muse together and have a chat about this predicament we see others in but don't always recognize in ourselves. Oh! And let's help others from this by sharing this 5-minute Quickie Podcast episode - here's a link if you need it: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-378-numbingly-comfortable-are-you Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you wa

Tall Poppy Syndrome - Are You At The Effect Of It If you're on this PD Adventure you probably are Do you have the pain of those 'nay sayers', those people around you that don't support you on your personal development hero's adventure? It may not be everyone but there are a few and they may be family members or one or two from your group of friends. They slowly, in their own way, bring your back to where they are. Slowly sapping your energy and get you to question yourself "who am I to do this for me?" and re-confirming that old negative belief "I'm Not Good Enough" But that's their issue, not yours and you have to do what you want to do to be the best you that you can be and continue to grow. You see, some are just not ready but you are. You are here creating your vision for yourself and I am here to support you in every way I can, to move your wishes into dreams then make them a reality, and then make it better than that. Together you can achieve more than you can imagine and your imagination is limitless,

The not so secret and Simple Step To Success Why is this not a secret? Because I'm telling you what it is  - Secret be gone!!!!! In 5 minutes or so how we can put into action the steps of success without overwhelm, fear or anxiety. If you do this often you will begin to speed up your success, have your wishes become real and your life be pretty Awesome. No more to be said just press play and find out how easy and simple the not-so-secret of success is. Oh! Plus it feels good too!! If you like this and feel like sharing please do. Here's a link you can email or text or whatsapp: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-377-the-not-so-secret-and-simple-step-to-success-2 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click her

Self Sabotage - What's Your Excuse If this offends you then this is just for you Creating the success you deserve through all your effort is what this podcast is all about, creating the best version of yourself without anxiety and with all the confidence you want - That's why ask "What's Your Excuse?" that's if you keep finding ways to put it off. And we all do that - Don't we? You see I have never bought into this thing we call Self Sabotage, not even the definition of it too. But I do think we do find ways to put things off and I also believe we have the tools to make sure we don't derail ourselves. That's what this episode will go into, not just the theory but real processes to explore the why and even more importantly the HOW TO. So don't put off listening to this and bring your notepad and a bucketful of curiosity. I'll go through those excuses I've used, and I bet you have used them too, and then dive deeply into how your values can be in conflict, they clash and the result is not finishing what we star

A Song To Sing La! La! La! It's a singing lesson. Not really, that would be silly but it's a great metaphor. We talk about, well I do, that we have a song to sing and that sounds great. I discover a big problem with that - What if we don't know what our song is or if we have been singing one it may not be ours? When we feel lost it gets even worse and we can get wrapped up in so many other people's songs, what they think we should be doing or how we should be doing or don't do that it won't work or worse than that you're not good enough to do that. When we feel lost we can also get more lost by simply taking the easy way by going with the flow and that means out of your control - sorry but it's true. I'll tell you about how learned to sing a completely wrong song and what a difference when I realized that! But I think I'm getting to learn my real song now but it took time and learning it bit by bit. So how do you find your song with all the BS that hides it? Well, that's where I want to share what I think and

The Secret Of Failing At Life The positive art of failing Is this really personal development/improvement? And this is not an 'Oh! I'm so lucky I failed story' that makes me look so good. You've listened to or seen in the media, enough of those phony anecdotes to sell you something. (Well that's a relief Cloughie I hear your inner voice say). No, because when you know the art of failing you get the double whammy of knowing how to succeed! It's just that we shy away from the negative and failing, if you believe in it, carries with it many negative feelings and behaviors. One of the biggest forerunners of failure is the well-known phrase, GO WITH THE FLOW. It seems such a great easy going way to live - NOT! In this episode we will dive deeply into not only what 'failure' is - really is - not only how to learn from 'failure' but the real HOW TO create a life without failure. Now that really is personal development/improvement! So bring your curiosity, your thinking head, and maybe a pen and paper so you can get

Making A Good Feeling Even Better Why? Because we/you/I can A quick 5-minute quickie to get you to think - Oh? I tend to find that most people think of therapy, Hypnosis, NLP or Time Line TherapyTM as being used for dealing with negative 'stuff', and it's partly true because they are all great for that. And Using the same processes we can take a good feeling and make it better but we have to be vigilant because when we feel good we can forget that we are feeling good because we're in the feeling good feeling. And When we get into the present moment as we're feeling good then ......... Well, I'll tell you how in 5 minutes right here. When you have listened and like what you heard please share. Here's the link if your friends haven't a podcast app. Get them to subscribe as well. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-376-making-a-good-feeling-even-better/   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other

What's Next For You? What's Next For Me? You don't really know but not knowing is worse than bad Some people think don't set goals, go with the flow - That's bad And the thing is there's always a goal in there somewhere whether you like it or not. At the other end of the spectrum, some are so specific in their goals and what they want - that's a little better    :O) But they both, and all in between, have a fault if you really want to succeed, have continued motivation, and ensure you continue on the path of feeling proud of your achievements and continue .............. People who finish in second place experience this and people who win and become the gold medal winners experience this. They put everything on hold and put every effort into their goal and then .............. So what chance have you got, I got? Well, no chance because we're leaving nothing to chance, we'll set our sights on achieving more than what we dream of or what we set our sights on. This is all very vague I know, but it's what I do when

What's next for you, for me? A five-minute muse, a conversation in which I hope to fire those synaptic gaps and neural pathways of yours and set you up for a longer and meaningful podcast episode. I want you to think about your goals in life if you have any, I know you do and I know you have more than you think you do. I'll want to remind you of goals you have set in the past, whether you achieved them or not. And that's all - For now Because, as I said, we will dive deeply into how not only to achieve your goals but understand and make sure there is more. Now that has to be important to you, and me, when we get that (and more). Press play >>>> and please share this conversation. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-375-whats-next-for-you-for-me/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to sub

Help I'm Being Attacked! And so are you Have you ever had the experience of walking in the dark forest, hunting for food, looking for some kind of sustenance and you hear 'CRACK!' You look around and can't see anyone and your heart begins to race and you begin to imagine that tiger, not just any tiger but a Saber-toothed tiger, and imagine all the things that could happen to you if it gets you. No! of course not, that would be ridiculous! Yet you're doing that very same thing and creating anxiety, nervousness, low-self esteem, and ultimately a complete lack of confidence in yourself. How do I know? Because we all do it. We still have this program inside us trying to protect us from danger. In the past many hundreds, if not thousands of years ago it was totally appropriate and would have saved our lives. But that was then and this is now (unless you're in the bear/mountain lion woods) We have to change this because those negative emotions you feel don't get better by themselves and they tend to get worse and I

Another Way To Put Passion Into Your Life - At Any Age That's right never too old and never too young There's more to the past was the old title, sometimes we let the memories from the past that had negative emotions dictate what happens in the future and the now. Let's reverse letting the past create the now and create the life you want right now. Can you d that - I think so. Instead of the negative events of the past what if we take wonderful memories when we were in the flow and full of passion and use them instead? If your unconscious mind was to recognize how safe you were back then in those memories it will begin to learn a new way leaving fight and flight to protect you together with the learnings of the past. Come with me as I share my thoughts and a few how-to's on ways to make your life richer. How would your life change when you have passion, richness in your career, relationships, mental health, physical health or well you fill in the many blanks. If that's difficult to answer I'll help you with t