The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert

Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss the simple, small and sustainable things that help make relationships work no matter what the history.  Plus join their brand new relationship rescue challenge... https://www.beyond-enough.com/relationship

Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D. is the President of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals, a training institute and professional organization for addiction professionals, and a senior fellow for Meadows Behavioral Healthcare where she works with sexually addicted clients and their families.  Dr. Carnes is the clinical architect for Willow House: Relationship Healing for Women struggling with sex, love and intimacy disorders and works closely with the staff of Willow House and Gentle Path to bring her unique expertise to the programs and to aid the clients who suffer from intimacy and relationship disorders. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AAMFT approved supervisor. Dr. Carnes is also a clinical sexologist and certified sex addiction therapist and supervisor, specializing in therapy for couples and families struggling with sexual addiction.  She presents regularly at conferences at both the state and national levels.  She is also the author of numerous publications in

In this episode Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby will discuss a list of things to keep front-of-mind when ready to really face addiction and or infidelity.   The list of things to actually do which are in part 2 of this series are found at beyond-enough.com/steps.  

Prodependence... Ending Codependency with Robert Wiess is an amazing conversation with another absolute Expert in the Arena of Addiction. If you have struggled with the shame of addiction or feeling the shame associated with loving a partner that struggles with addiction, you will want to experience this conversation. Robert Weiss PhD, LCSW is Chief Clinical Officer of Seeking Integrity LLC, He is the author of ten books on sexuality, technology, and intimate relationships, including Sex Addiction 101, Out of the Doghouse, and Prodependence. His Sex, Love, and Addiction Podcast is currently in the Top 10 of US Addiction-Health Podcasts. Dr. Rob hosts a no-cost weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A on Seeking Integrity’s self-help website, SexandRelationshipHealing.com (@SexandHealing). The Sex and Relationship Healing website provides free information for addicts, partners of addicts, and therapists dealing with sex addiction, porn addiction, and substance abuse issues. Dr. Rob can be contacted via Seeking Integrit

Shannon is a life coach; merging business and personal coaching together. She bridges the gap between our emotions, finding trust where it has been lost & then bringing that into the business world. She’s worked with 100’s of women, helping them embrace the power in their femininity. She’ does a great job helping others find the value in what is already inside of them. Find Shannon’s PDF worksheet at https://theprofitablemarriage.com/podcast https://www.facebook.com/ShannonRoxySmith/

Each month the members on our premium site get to submit questions and we answer those in an audio file that is posted on that site.  Click Here The following are questions that were submitted:    Q&A What do you do when you don’t feel like you want to emotionally connect and be vulnerable with you spouse?   From my husband- As I’m working on my sex addiction recovery, I am also experiencing outbursts of anger. Can the anger issues be resolved by the work in my addiction recovery?   What are all your thoughts on the saying "sobriety is not recovery"?    I am in a 3 year relationship and I don't feel physically attracted to my partner, I've used porn for 6-8 years and have been sober for 2 years with 1 relapse early on in the 2 years, I find it tempting to look at attractive women on the street. I find it hard to give genuine compliments about my partner and their physical appearance. Every time I try to, I ask myself internally and try to confirm about whether what I whether I find something physical/othe

Individual and couples therapy is often discussed right out of the gate but what about group therapy?  What is group accountability and can that be helpful? Can Psych-Ed help?  Listen as these various types are discussed and what their potential roles could be.

Education is power and that power can be found by learning about Betrayal Trauma while recovering from addiction.  Understanding what it is can help during intense moments when the partner is triggered and goes into trauma.  Listen to Coby's experience as he learned to identify when Ashlylnn was triggered and what he did to deal with it.  

How does it work?  How can it be a thing to feel pain when the partner is also in pain from a life event, even outside of betrayal and addiction?  Is a partner warranted in suffering when they have hurt their partner?  What does this delicate situation look like when approached the right way?  Listen as Coby and Brannon break this down.  

In this episode, the flow goes to self-evaluation and knowing when to stop, take a breath and perhaps even take a break.  "Don't should on yourself" is a phrase Brannon uses a lot and we will see how that can manifest inside each of us and what we can do about it.  Coby and Ashlynn each share their own experience with this concept.  Listen to see how.    Find us on Youtube.com at https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=the+betrayed+the+addict+and+the+expert Find us on IG at @recovery_coaches

What are the markers of addiction?  What are some indicators of the behaviors of addiction that I may have?  This is a recreation and update of Episode #1 that was done 3 years ago.  Coby and Brannon both discuss the ins and outs of addiction in this episode.  

This episode will be about making small changes named, shifts.  When done properly, shifts can be the bedrock of change.  Shifts are small and easy and done in a sustainable way. What could that look like for you?  Listen.  

In part 5 of this series on indicators of real recovery Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss consistent actions and behaviors.  Listen in as they share their experience from days when consistency never showed up for them in either action or behavior.  Then they share how they chose to be consistent and what helped them to be so even 5 years into recovery.   

Part 4 of this 5 part series discusses the household needs and the connection to them as an indicator of real recovery.  

In part 3 of this 5 part series Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss what it is like to give empathy and patience to the one betrayed.  The good news is that they will share how to and how not to do this and it will be from their personal experiences.  

What does it look like, to be honest?  Why do some lie or share half-truths?  What does that do to relationships?  How can it be given without reservation?  Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss this topic that is so small but is a key building block to safety and trust.

This is part one of a five part series and it will describe how you can know if they are in recovery.  There is a balance between "doing" and "being" recovery.  This series will help identify markers of both to determine if they really are in recovery.  

When the the conversation seems to take a left turn and then another and in confusion, you ask yourself what they really mean? It is hard to know what they really mean and what they are trying to get at and there are numerous ways the message is clouded.  Let's see what Brannon and Tyler Patrick, his brother that treats sex addiction and betrayal trauma, say about this challenging aspect of recovery.  

Brannon and his brother are both therapists who treat sex addiction and betrayal trauma but how did that happen?  For the first time, they are in the studio to discuss how they both ended up in the same field with the same specialty.  Listen as they discuss some of the key issues they face as therapists from the perspective of brothers.  

The podcast is really a way to Brannon, Ashlynn, and Coby to share their experience and insights from addiction, betrayal, and recovery both in life and in the clinic.  However, they are aware that the anonymity that the podcast provides also does not facilitate the ability for listeners to ask questions.  That is challenging.  However once a month they do allow people to ask questions on their Patreon site.  Today's episode is a sneak peek as to what that monthly Q&A is like.  Find out more about the access to Brannon, Ashlynn, and Coby go to patreon.com/betrayedaddictedexpert and see what fits you best.  Supporting the podcast can be done with a simple $2 monthly donation.