The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert

When there are so many unknowns in life how do we manage our thoughts to the point of not letting the worst-case scenarios play out in our heads over and over?  How do we recognize we are going down that path before things really get out of control?  How do we reality check our fears that manifest in our minds and feel so real?  Listen as Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby approach this topic.  

Why did Brannon decide to become a therapist?  What was behind his decision and how did he become so specialized?  Listen as Coby and Ashlynn ask all kinds of questions to reveal the man behind the expertise.  

Relapse is a part of recovery and a painful one at that.  What happens when relapse does take place and what is the right course of action?  Listen as Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby walk through the ins and outs of this topic.  

Passive-Aggressive relationships are challenging but most people don't know they are acting that way.  It is taught by example and very easy to pick up.  Honesty and vulnerability are the keys to getting out of this kind of relationship.  It takes mindfulness but once you really get it, you can work on it.   

Sexual feelings can be riddled with shame and guilt which can increase the feeling of being "bad" for having them.  Where do they come from?  How can one see it when it happens and make sense of it?  How can one move beyond them?  Listen as Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby move through this episode on the delicate topic.  

When the conversation of sex is avoided, minimized and ignored what do we do?  What can be done?  How can it be discussed in a way that is safe and honest?  What keeps this topic so taboo?  Listen as Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby share experiences of their own and the journey they have had.

What does it feel like to be controlled by a partner when it comes to sex?  What is the approach when one person in a relationship does not feel like like they can be themselves and authentic to who they are because they are being controlled by the other?  

As part of the Sextember series on the podcast, Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby walk through rejection and how it plays a role in a relationship.  Why does the addict reject the betrayed?  Why does the betrayed reject the addicted?  What must be considered when people deal with this?  Listen as Brannon, Coby and Ashlynn take a new spin on this sensitive topic.

This is a one of a kind episode where Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby host a live event and allow their audience to ask questions of any kind.  They have never produced an episode like this so listen as they field questions of all kinds.     For more info go to Beyond-enough.com For online programs to go shatteredtothriving.com

Speaking truth for Coby as a young boy was always scary as even if he told the truth, he would get in trouble.  That carried over with him into his marraige to Ashlynn. What else was it that lead Coby from disclosing the truth?  Listen as Brannon leads Ashlynn and Coby on this episode to discovering the things that kept him from disclosing truth.  

Trust is a foundational piece to any relationship but can we feel it and trust that it is what we think it is?  Can we also feel the lack of trust when it is gone or when it starts to subside?  How can we become more sensitive to the emotions and feelings of trust?  Listen as Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss this paramount feeling of trust.

Join in as we revisit our story of recovery! It's been a while since we have really revisited the beginning of our recovery journey and reflecting back there really were 6 elements that shifted our relationship. Get your own shift by visiting www.shatteredtothriving.com Find the relationship you may have thought wasn't possible. Every relationship has challenges, but those with the tools are the ones we can most enjoy. The Addicted, The Betrayed, The Expert is a podcast providing the perspective of 3 individuals, 2 who have come back from broken hearts addiction and betrayal, and an expert therapist.  Together they authentically share how to be in a relationship that lasts.  

Giving our emotions to someone else to determine how we feel, for better or worse, is codependency.  How does this take place?  Why do we betray ourselves when this happens?  This episode will identify how codependent both Coby and Ashlynn were and how they sometimes deal with it still.  

Work was an environment for Coby where he was a different person.  He did not act the same at work as he did at home.  This caused a lot of questions, anxiety, confusion, doubt and betrayal for Ashlynn.  Listen as Coby shares what he did do that was no appropriate at work and its effect on Ashlynn.  

How can one ever feel enough when they are betrayed?  Does the addict struggle with not feeling enough?  What do you do when this is a pervasive thought?  How does one deal with it?  This episode will walk through the journey Ashlynn and Coby on this topic.  

Women are susceptible to cheating the same as men.  However, what does a man do when his female partner has the affair?  There are way more resources for women who have been betrayed than the men so what is a guy to do?  Listen as this dynamic is discussed. 

Relapsing over and over can put an addict into a headspace of apathy as they can feel powerless to stop.  The betrayed can spiral in the face of continual relapse as the message from the addict can be that they don't care.  Why does relapsing keep happening despite the best, heartfelt intentions?  

The way we act as adults is largely affected by the way we were raised.  When things are so challenging in life how do we overcome the habits, mindset and behavioral norms from our childhood?  Listen as Coby and Ashlynn walk through their experience with Brannon.  

There are all kinds of steps to take in recovery and in life but what happens when one partner is not ready to move at the same pace another is?  That can be a tricky path to walk and may be in the pace they want to take in recovery and many others.  How do we focus on ourselves and still allow our partners their pace even if we want to move faster?

There are so many therapists with the credentials that speak to what they may be able to do to help but is there more to a good therapist?  Is there something more to take into consideration when making a decision on which therapist is right for me?  All these questions and more are discussed today on this very honest and candid episode.